Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - September 20, 2022

 Sometimes you have to take a break and breathe before you can keep moving forward. - Kayla Panchisin

 

I want to be remembered as a person who felt there was no limitation to what the human body and mind can do and be the inspiration to lead people to do things they never hoped to do. - Carl Lewis

 

Now that the reader has taken on a big challenge to accomplish before the end of the year, fear and anxiety may have overcome them.  The natural tendency is to tense up, stress out and slow down when one gets close to the finish.  However, that is not the most advantageous thing to do.

 

Carl Lewis was a track and field runner that competed between 1979 and 1996.  During this time, he won nine Olympic gold medals and one silver.  According to a BBC TWO interview, Carol Lewis would decelerate much slower than everyone else.  Why is this important?  When a runner comes close to the finish line, the natural tendency is to slow down.  However, Lewis was known for slowing down at a much slower pace than all of the other runners.  This was important because he might look like he was going to lose the race, but he would pull it out at the end when the other runners were slowing down.

 

My thoughts before a big race are usually pretty simple. I tell myself: Get out of the blocks, run your race, stay relaxed. If you run your race, you'll win... channel your energy. Focus. - Carl Lewis

 

Why would the author bring up a running technique?  Because this is a great way to accomplish the goal the reader wants to accomplish before the end of the year.  Carl Lewis was very efficient with his time and energy when he was running that it almost looked effortless for him to run.  As the reader works on this new goal/dream/project, find the most efficient ways to work and relax.  Efficiency will help the reader accomplish more in a shorter amount of time.

 

 

ACTION:

 

 

·       How to Go Faster – Darren Hardy - https://dd.darrenhardy.com/how-to-go-faster?_hsmi=223509798&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9i3AphqaQEV8kWZ_eZsBMvMQRpTAhnuPUiBTtK2k4Po0pidhUy8GETfd8AuB8QvzuqUT6B2sUCUARtOfDkN3KHvFU1EQ

·       Carl Lewis: The Master Finisher - Faster, Higher, Stronger - BBC Two –

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhKI7sH0O20

·       https://openviewpartners.com/blog/the-goal-of-conducting-quarterly-reviews/

·       https://es.player.fm/series/darrendaily-on-demand/how-to-go-faster-a-surprise-twist

·       https://succeedfeed.com/darren-hardy-quotes/

·       https://www.michellezavala.com/blog/surprising-way-midlife-productivity

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Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - September 6, 2022

 Risk means acting without certainty. – Darren Hardy

 

Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing. - Denis Waitley

 

Last week, the author challenged readers to review their progress toward their 2022 goals.  Were there any surprises the reader discovered either in regards to the progress made so far this year or maybe the reader thought they would be farther along by this point in the year?  What about an idea or dream the reader has not started yet?

The author did this challenge a couple weeks ago.  She reviewed her goals and thought about what she still wanted to occur this year.  As the author has said many times, timing is important in many aspects of life.  For the author, she has had a hard time in her return to Texas finding the right areas to get involved in.  Knowing her passions, she tried to find places to volunteer for the military and every door closed.  On an ordinary day in July, she was sitting with a group of ladies at church and a discussion began about starting groups to help others.  The first thing the author thought of was to create a group to help the military.  There is a military base close by and some attend the same church as the author.  As the author continued to think about the idea, it became something she could see herself doing because she had done similar activities in various places she has lived. 

Every risk is worth taking as long as it’s for a good cause, and contributes to a good life. – Richard Branson

 

For the author, she has a dream and it is a risk to implement.  It is not going to be easy because there are many barriers to overcome and connections to make.  She is taking the dream and starting small and hoping it will grow. 

 

ACTION: What dreams have you had that you could start today to help others and contribute to humanity to make it better?

 

 

·       How to Go Faster – Darren Hardy - https://dd.darrenhardy.com/how-to-go-faster?_hsmi=223509798&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9i3AphqaQEV8kWZ_eZsBMvMQRpTAhnuPUiBTtK2k4Po0pidhUy8GETfd8AuB8QvzuqUT6B2sUCUARtOfDkN3KHvFU1EQ

·       Carl Lewis: The Master Finisher - Faster, Higher, Stronger - BBC Two –

·       https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhKI7sH0O20

·       https://openviewpartners.com/blog/the-goal-of-conducting-quarterly-reviews/

·       https://es.player.fm/series/darrendaily-on-demand/how-to-go-faster-a-surprise-twist

·       https://succeedfeed.com/darren-hardy-quotes/

 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 30, 2022

If your plan isn’t working, change the plan, not the goal. – Darren Hardy

 

Track every action that relates to the area of your life you want to improve. All winners are trackers. – Darren Hardy

 

It is 123 days until 2023!  Now that you have recovered from that fact, it is time to think about how the year has gone so far.  As the author has said before, December is full of holiday preparation and goals are often not top of mind.  This means we have about 3 months left to accomplish our goals for 2022.

 

With kids going back to school and fall approaching soon, it is the perfect time to make changes in life or establish new rhythms.  Take time this week to analysis how this year has gone by answering the below questions:

·       Is the reader at the point in 2022 where they wanted to be towards their goals?

·       What does the reader need to still accomplish for this year in regards to goals?

·       What goal did the reader think about establishing after their 2022 goals were set, but did not take it on because they thought it was too late, they would not have enough time to accomplish it or some other reason prohibited the reader from starting it?

  

ACTION: Jot down the answers to the above questions and come back next week for a challenge.    

  

·       How to Go Faster – Darren Hardy - https://dd.darrenhardy.com/how-to-go-faster?_hsmi=223509798&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9i3AphqaQEV8kWZ_eZsBMvMQRpTAhnuPUiBTtK2k4Po0pidhUy8GETfd8AuB8QvzuqUT6B2sUCUARtOfDkN3KHvFU1EQ

·       Carl Lewis: The Master Finisher - Faster, Higher, Stronger - BBC Two –

·       https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhKI7sH0O20

·       https://openviewpartners.com/blog/the-goal-of-conducting-quarterly-reviews/

·       https://es.player.fm/series/darrendaily-on-demand/how-to-go-faster-a-surprise-twist

·       https://succeedfeed.com/darren-hardy-quotes/

 

  

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 23, 2022

 Sometimes the greatest adventure is simply a conversation. – Amadeus Wolfe

 

Life is beautiful not because of the things we see or do. Life is beautiful because of the people we meet. – Simon Sinek

As the author has written about many times, she thinks it is very important to interact with people different than herself and experience new things.  Over the weekend, the author took a trip to New Mexico and had the opportunity to experience Wild West Day in White Oaks.  During this experience, the author tried new foods, worked on developing her inverse charisma when she met many new people, learned many historical facts about the gold town and laughed over many jokes.  One of the individuals the author met was a very smart man that knew the historical facts of the town and has been published.  Another gentleman was leading a group of soldiers on a hunt.  

 

Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t. – Bill Nye

 

This adventure was great for the author because she interacted with new people and she experienced new things.  The author stepped outside her comfort zone and learned ideas that can be implemented in her life in many ways.  Also, the author has been burned out and needed a couple of days away from the stress of work.

 

I meet people and they become chapters in my stories. – Avijeet Das

 

This adventure and the people the author met will definitely be a chapter in her life that she will not forget. 

 

ACTION: What people have you met recently that will be chapters in your life?  Why? 

 

Check out the author’s Facebook page to see picture from the New Mexico adventure. 

 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 16, 2022

 Charisma is the ability to influence without logic. - Quentin Crisp

 My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me. - Henry Ford

 

As was discussed a couple weeks ago, Adam Grant coined the phrase inverse charisma, which is bringing out the charisma of others through the conversation one has with individuals.  There are many important aspects of inverse charisma and the first thing to know is that one’s motivation has to be to make other people better.  Next, one with inverse charisma is curious in their questioning and enter conversations with the mindset to learn something new.  Most likely, those questions will be open-ended and start with words like who, what, when and where.  Once a question is answered, add on questions will most likely be asked because an individual with inverse charisma listens intently and those follow on questions provide energy to the speaker as they provide additional information.  Through this interaction, we become vulnerable as we intently listen and our guided by their direction in the conversation.   

Writing this post, the author thought of an individual she knows who has had inverse charisma long before the term was coined.  The author has always looked up to that person and sees many of these qualities in that individual and respected her for it. 

Inverse charisma is a new term and the author expects much more research and studies to be conducted about it providing many more opportunities for growth. 

Leave people better than you found them. - Marvin J. Ashton

ACTION: When interacting with others, analyze conversations to find those individuals that ask the intentional questions to learn and then listen intently to the speaker.                                                                                                 

 

 

Resources

·       https://www.persuasionschoolpodcast.com/episodedescriptions/how-to-win-others-over-by-making-them-feel-heard-the-power-of-inverse-charisma

·       https://www.happyscribe.com/public/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/adam-grant-returns

·       https://myquestionlife.com/inverse-charisma/#:~:text=Inverse%20charisma%20is%20someone%E2%80%99s%20ability%20to%20bring%20the,they%E2%80%99ve%20made%20you%20more%20interesting%20with%20their%20questions.

·       Grant, A. (2021). Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know (1^st ed.). Viking. 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 2, 2022

 Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can't buy. It's an invisible energy with visible effects. - Marianne Williamson

 

People who love life have charisma because they fill the room with positive energy. - John C. Maxwell

 

Think of a time when the reader was talking with someone and they said, “Wow, that person has charisma.”  What made the reader think the person had charisma?  What qualities did they show that were charismatic? 

 

Now, what if the reader could develop their skills to bring out charisma in someone else?  In Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know, Adam Grant defined a term called “inverse charisma”, which is bringing out the charisma of others through the conversation one has with others.  Questions one asks leads the other individual to talk more about themselves and bring out the best in that person through their presence and attitude.  The questioner is someone who shows they have a true curiosity to learn, open-mind to listen to what is said and withhold judgement as the individual speaks.

 

Would the reader like to develop their inverse charisma?  Next week, learn more about it and how to develop it.  

 

ACTION: Create a list of characteristics for an individual with charisma.  

 

 

Resources

·       https://www.persuasionschoolpodcast.com/episodedescriptions/how-to-win-others-over-by-making-them-feel-heard-the-power-of-inverse-charisma

·       https://www.happyscribe.com/public/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/adam-grant-returns

·       https://myquestionlife.com/inverse-charisma/#:~:text=Inverse%20charisma%20is%20someone%E2%80%99s%20ability%20to%20bring%20the,they%E2%80%99ve%20made%20you%20more%20interesting%20with%20their%20questions.

·       Grant, A. (2021). Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know (1^st ed.). Viking. 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - July 26, 2022

 Don’t stop when you’re tired; stop when you’re done. – Marilyn Monroe

Circumstances will never be just right. If you wait for the perfect time to commit to an idea, you’ll be waiting forever! - Craig Groeschel

 

What is the reader willing to do to accomplish their dreams?

There is an interesting legend about Hernán Cortés and his conquest of Mexico in 1519.  According to various sources, the conquest began when his men conquered Veracruz, which is a coastal region in the Gulf of Mexico across from Cuba.  His binary mission included the military conquest of the territory and the subjects of the land plus the spiritual seizing of the nation for the Catholic Church.

This was a hard mission and his crew had many obstacles to overcome.  Once Cortés conquered Veracruz, his next action was to sink all of the ships used to deliver his crew to the coastal region.  The intent was the men would have no option to quit and would overcome every obstacle they faced.

Many may think this is very extreme; however, his point was evident.  Whatever the goal, commit to it and be 110% engaged to accomplish it.  A way to accomplish the goal will become clear if the reader does not quit. 

 

If you commit to the what and are consumed by your why, you will figure out the how! - Craig Groeschel

 

What is the reader willing to “burn” to accomplish their 2022 goals and lifelong dreams?

A note from the author….one dream the author has had for a very long time has not come to pass yet.  In various ways, the author has “burned” the ship, but it has not changed the situation because likely it has not been the right time.

The reader can do things that will put them in positions to have no option but to accomplish their goals.  However, the reader often has to have other people assist in accomplishing our dreams and goals and those individuals do not always move at the same pace as goal-driven individuals.  The author is not saying not to go all in, but understand that if we have to rely on other people that may not have the same vision and drive.  The goal may not be accomplished at the pace the reader desires. 

  

ACTION:  Determine how you will “burn” a ship in 2022 to accomplish a goal and then implement the plan.

 

Resources

https://onepeterfive.com/burn-ships-hernan-cortes-new-world/

https://www.life.church/leadershippodcast/do-more-invest-less-learning-to-bend-the-curve/

https://www.thoughtco.com/ten-facts-about-hernan-cortes-2136576#:~:text=A%20popular%20legend%20says%20that%20Hernan%20Cortes%20burned,because%20he%20wanted%20to%20keep%20the%20important%20parts.

 

 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - July 19, 2022

 Ignore the noise, focus on your work. – Anonymous  

Success has less to do with what we can get ourselves to do and more to do with keeping ourselves from doing what we shouldn’t. - Kenneth Cole

Now that the reader has a plan for what to accomplish for the rest of year, how will they focus to accomplish their plan?  As the author has talked about over the years, a big plan is great, but it is important to break down goals and action plans into smaller parts to accomplish goals and tasks. 

The author still becomes overwhelmed when she sees a big task in front of her to complete.  When she steps back, breaks down tasks into smaller pieces and creates a list, she is able to focus on the project and accomplish things she never thought possible.

As we focus, we continue to grow and develop.  Greg McKeown stated:

Focus is more important than genius.

Even when one feels down and not adequate to accomplish their dreams, they need to refer back to this quote.  By focusing and being determined, stuff gets done!

 

ACTION:  Review your action plan for the rest of 2022.  Make any changes that you have thought about in the last week and determine how you will take time daily to focus and accomplish the plan.

 

 

Resources

https://insaneproductivity.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/FOCUS-ACN.pdf

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - July 5, 2022

 Focus on the outcome not the obstacle. – Unknown   

Where focus goes, energy flows. – Tony Robbins

We are halfway through the year and it is time to conduct a mid-year review on how life is going, progress toward goals and anything else the reader wants to analyze at this point in 2022.  The author knows this year has not been what she thought.  Plans and things she prayed for have not happened as she had hoped, but she can also say that things that she did not prepare for or expect to happen so early in the year have occurred so much faster and were to her benefit.

The author learned through this process that planning is great, but when things do not go as planned one has to change course and focus on the immediate task at hand.  She has been learning this skill for almost a year now and is proud of herself for how she handled the most recent situation.  Through this process, the author is still pondering why some things happen so easily and other events or activities feel like pulling teeth to accomplish.  Once she figures that out, she will pass on that knowledge! 

 

As the reader review goals and create a plan to finish strong in 2022, use this time to focus on fulfilling actions, activities and tasks that will help the reader move closer to their destiny.

 

Focus on your greater goal, your destiny. – Robert Greene

 

 

ACTION:  Write down what has gone well in 2022.  Write down what has not gone well.  Create an action plan for the rest of the year to accomplish goals and create a plan of how to overcome or get through the difficult times.  

Terri's Tip of the Week - June 28, 2022

 

America was not built on fear.  America was built on courage, on imagination and an unbeatable determination to do the job at hand. - President Harry S. Truman

The history of free men is never really written by chance but by choice; their choice! - Dwight D. Eisenhower

On Monday, our country will celebrate its independence.  Why is July 4^th so important?  In 1776 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, 12 out of the 13 original colonies voted to approve the Declaration of Independence.  Each person that voted for independence took a risk and lived a life of courage

Life rewards courage.

The person who is brave enough to bet on something or someone—as long as they avoid irreversible mistakes like running out of cash or going to jail—is in a position to win. – James Clear

 

 ACTION: As we prepare to celebrate our country’s birthday, find something new and unique to do to celebrate our countries independence. 

 

Resource

·       https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Signing_of_the_United_States_Declaration_of_Independence