Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 2, 2022

 Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can't buy. It's an invisible energy with visible effects. - Marianne Williamson

 

People who love life have charisma because they fill the room with positive energy. - John C. Maxwell

 

Think of a time when the reader was talking with someone and they said, “Wow, that person has charisma.”  What made the reader think the person had charisma?  What qualities did they show that were charismatic? 

 

Now, what if the reader could develop their skills to bring out charisma in someone else?  In Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know, Adam Grant defined a term called “inverse charisma”, which is bringing out the charisma of others through the conversation one has with others.  Questions one asks leads the other individual to talk more about themselves and bring out the best in that person through their presence and attitude.  The questioner is someone who shows they have a true curiosity to learn, open-mind to listen to what is said and withhold judgement as the individual speaks.

 

Would the reader like to develop their inverse charisma?  Next week, learn more about it and how to develop it.  

 

ACTION: Create a list of characteristics for an individual with charisma.  

 

 

Resources

·       https://www.persuasionschoolpodcast.com/episodedescriptions/how-to-win-others-over-by-making-them-feel-heard-the-power-of-inverse-charisma

·       https://www.happyscribe.com/public/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/adam-grant-returns

·       https://myquestionlife.com/inverse-charisma/#:~:text=Inverse%20charisma%20is%20someone%E2%80%99s%20ability%20to%20bring%20the,they%E2%80%99ve%20made%20you%20more%20interesting%20with%20their%20questions.

·       Grant, A. (2021). Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know (1^st ed.). Viking. 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - July 26, 2022

 Don’t stop when you’re tired; stop when you’re done. – Marilyn Monroe

Circumstances will never be just right. If you wait for the perfect time to commit to an idea, you’ll be waiting forever! - Craig Groeschel

 

What is the reader willing to do to accomplish their dreams?

There is an interesting legend about Hernán Cortés and his conquest of Mexico in 1519.  According to various sources, the conquest began when his men conquered Veracruz, which is a coastal region in the Gulf of Mexico across from Cuba.  His binary mission included the military conquest of the territory and the subjects of the land plus the spiritual seizing of the nation for the Catholic Church.

This was a hard mission and his crew had many obstacles to overcome.  Once Cortés conquered Veracruz, his next action was to sink all of the ships used to deliver his crew to the coastal region.  The intent was the men would have no option to quit and would overcome every obstacle they faced.

Many may think this is very extreme; however, his point was evident.  Whatever the goal, commit to it and be 110% engaged to accomplish it.  A way to accomplish the goal will become clear if the reader does not quit. 

 

If you commit to the what and are consumed by your why, you will figure out the how! - Craig Groeschel

 

What is the reader willing to “burn” to accomplish their 2022 goals and lifelong dreams?

A note from the author….one dream the author has had for a very long time has not come to pass yet.  In various ways, the author has “burned” the ship, but it has not changed the situation because likely it has not been the right time.

The reader can do things that will put them in positions to have no option but to accomplish their goals.  However, the reader often has to have other people assist in accomplishing our dreams and goals and those individuals do not always move at the same pace as goal-driven individuals.  The author is not saying not to go all in, but understand that if we have to rely on other people that may not have the same vision and drive.  The goal may not be accomplished at the pace the reader desires. 

  

ACTION:  Determine how you will “burn” a ship in 2022 to accomplish a goal and then implement the plan.

 

Resources

https://onepeterfive.com/burn-ships-hernan-cortes-new-world/

https://www.life.church/leadershippodcast/do-more-invest-less-learning-to-bend-the-curve/

https://www.thoughtco.com/ten-facts-about-hernan-cortes-2136576#:~:text=A%20popular%20legend%20says%20that%20Hernan%20Cortes%20burned,because%20he%20wanted%20to%20keep%20the%20important%20parts.

 

 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - July 19, 2022

 Ignore the noise, focus on your work. – Anonymous  

Success has less to do with what we can get ourselves to do and more to do with keeping ourselves from doing what we shouldn’t. - Kenneth Cole

Now that the reader has a plan for what to accomplish for the rest of year, how will they focus to accomplish their plan?  As the author has talked about over the years, a big plan is great, but it is important to break down goals and action plans into smaller parts to accomplish goals and tasks. 

The author still becomes overwhelmed when she sees a big task in front of her to complete.  When she steps back, breaks down tasks into smaller pieces and creates a list, she is able to focus on the project and accomplish things she never thought possible.

As we focus, we continue to grow and develop.  Greg McKeown stated:

Focus is more important than genius.

Even when one feels down and not adequate to accomplish their dreams, they need to refer back to this quote.  By focusing and being determined, stuff gets done!

 

ACTION:  Review your action plan for the rest of 2022.  Make any changes that you have thought about in the last week and determine how you will take time daily to focus and accomplish the plan.

 

 

Resources

https://insaneproductivity.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/FOCUS-ACN.pdf

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - July 5, 2022

 Focus on the outcome not the obstacle. – Unknown   

Where focus goes, energy flows. – Tony Robbins

We are halfway through the year and it is time to conduct a mid-year review on how life is going, progress toward goals and anything else the reader wants to analyze at this point in 2022.  The author knows this year has not been what she thought.  Plans and things she prayed for have not happened as she had hoped, but she can also say that things that she did not prepare for or expect to happen so early in the year have occurred so much faster and were to her benefit.

The author learned through this process that planning is great, but when things do not go as planned one has to change course and focus on the immediate task at hand.  She has been learning this skill for almost a year now and is proud of herself for how she handled the most recent situation.  Through this process, the author is still pondering why some things happen so easily and other events or activities feel like pulling teeth to accomplish.  Once she figures that out, she will pass on that knowledge! 

 

As the reader review goals and create a plan to finish strong in 2022, use this time to focus on fulfilling actions, activities and tasks that will help the reader move closer to their destiny.

 

Focus on your greater goal, your destiny. – Robert Greene

 

 

ACTION:  Write down what has gone well in 2022.  Write down what has not gone well.  Create an action plan for the rest of the year to accomplish goals and create a plan of how to overcome or get through the difficult times.  

Terri's Tip of the Week - June 28, 2022

 

America was not built on fear.  America was built on courage, on imagination and an unbeatable determination to do the job at hand. - President Harry S. Truman

The history of free men is never really written by chance but by choice; their choice! - Dwight D. Eisenhower

On Monday, our country will celebrate its independence.  Why is July 4^th so important?  In 1776 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, 12 out of the 13 original colonies voted to approve the Declaration of Independence.  Each person that voted for independence took a risk and lived a life of courage

Life rewards courage.

The person who is brave enough to bet on something or someone—as long as they avoid irreversible mistakes like running out of cash or going to jail—is in a position to win. – James Clear

 

 ACTION: As we prepare to celebrate our country’s birthday, find something new and unique to do to celebrate our countries independence. 

 

Resource

·       https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Signing_of_the_United_States_Declaration_of_Independence

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - June 21, 2022

 God grant me the courage not to give up what I think is right even though I think it is hopeless. - Chester W. Nimitz

Hindsight is notably cleverer than foresight.- Chester W. Nimitz

 

Has the reader ever made a horrible mistake and thought there was no way to recover?  Their career and dreams were doomed forever.

Recently, the author heard a story that amazed her.  There was a man that left high school to start his career in the Navy.  He was an outstanding student in mathematics and graduated with distinction from the Naval Academy being 7^th in a class of 114 students.  Additionally, he was an excellent athlete and always had a good attitude. 

When he first started his career, he embarked on a journey to the Far East on the USS Ohio.  At that time, it was required by law to accomplish two years of sea duty to become an Ensign.  After accomplishing that, he commanded the USS Panay and then the USS Decatur.  While the Ensign was commanding the USS Decatur in the Philippines, the ship ran aground in a sand bar.  With the assistance of another boat, the USS Decatur was freed from the sand bar.  For the Ensign, he was found guilty of neglect of duty and issued a letter of reprimand.

Most people, would think their career was over after an incident like that.  However, this Ensign did not and returned to work in the Navy working diligently with each duty assignment.  Less than 30 years after that incident and a letter of reprimand forever in his military file, he became a Navy Fleet Admiral and was the United States signer of the surrender terms aboard the USS Missouri in Tokyo Bay to end World War II. 

Who was this hard-working Naval Officer and Texan?  Chester William Nimitz. 

ACTION: Through difficult times that seem hopeless, always remember that you can recover and make a difference in the world.

 

Resource

·       https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/USS_Decatur_(DD-5)

·       https://www.biography.com/political-figure/chester-w-nimitz

·       https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chester_W._Nimitz

·       https://www.history.navy.mil/research/histories/biographies-list/bios-n/nimitz-chester-w.html

 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - June 14, 2022

 This flag which we honor and under which we serve is the emblem of our unity, our power, our thought and purpose as a nation. - Woodrow Wilson

When we honor our flag, we honor what we stand for as a Nation -- freedom, equality, justice, and hope. – Ronald Reagan

 

Today marks the 106^th anniversary of the creation of Flag Day, which began when President Woodrow Wilson signed a proclamation. 

Why was June 14^th selected?  According to history.com, the flag was made by Betsy Ross.  She was chosen because she was a struggling local seamstress that had lost 2 husbands in the Revolutionary War.  One day, 3 men showed up at her shop, which were George Washington, Robert Morris, and George Ross.  During this visit, the men asked her to create a flag that would represent the new country and hopefully bring unity within the country.  Washington provided Betsy Ross a picture of the vision he had for the flag.  She worked diligently on the flag and finished it in less than a month. 

On June 14, 1777, the Second Continental Congress was working on the Articles of Confederation in Philadelphia.  Congress stopped debating and passed a resolution stating that the United States Flag would have 13 stripes interchanging between red and white with 13 white stars surrounded by blue symbolizing a new constellation.

One person had the vision and one person implemented that vision.

How does this relate to goals and dreams?  As we progress toward achieving our goals, the creation of the United States Flag shows that no one can accomplish their goals alone.

ACTION: This week when you see an American flag, remember the story of the creation of the flag and then think of one person you can reconnect with that might be able to assist you with a goal or a dream. 

  

Resource

·       https://www.history.com/news/what-is-flag-day

·       https://www.ushistory.org/betsy/flagtale.html

·       https://www.reference.com/history/american-flag-created-87350838af5a95da

 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - June 7, 2022

 The measure of intelligence is the ability to change. - Albert Einstein

Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. - George Bernard Shaw

Is the reader open-minded?  As we begin the summer and there may be more time for contemplation and thinking, the author challenges every reader to analyze how open-minded he/she is.   

Our country is going through a tough time and everyone has a perspective.  Many times, people will tell their opinion to anyone who will listen.  As someone who is goal-driven and a leader, it is important to be open to calmly listening to different perspectives and be thoughtful in responses. 

The reader may ask how being open-minded will be beneficial in leadership development.  According to Presidential IQ, Openness, Intellectual Brilliance, and Leadership: Estimates and Correlations for 42 U.S. Chief Executives, there was one trait that consistently predicted presidential greatness after many control factors.  It was not appearance, friendliness, humor or presentation skills.  The study shows that that the main indicators of greatness was one’s intellectual curiosity and openness to new experiences.  When defining openness, the study defined it as “a cognitive proclivity that encompasses unusual receptiveness to fantasy, aesthetics, feelings, actions, ideas, and values.” (p. 513) 

Over the years, the author has always talked about being open to new ideas, places, perspectives.  There is now a study that shows greatness correlates with these recommendations. 

 

ACTION: The author is not suggesting anyone change their morals or values.  However, take time to listen and be open-minded to others perspectives.  Hopefully, the listener will show the same graciousness and listen to what you have to say.

 

Resource

Simonton, D.  (2006) Presidential IQ, Openness, Intellectual Brilliance, and Leadership: Estimates and Correlations for 42 U.S. Chief Executives. Political Psychology. Vol. 27, No. 4, 511-526.  https://www.acsu.buffalo.edu/~jcampbel/documents/SimontonPresIQ2006.pdf

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - May 31, 2022

 I’ve learned that you can’t have everything and do everything at the same time. – Oprah Winfrey

Trying to do it all and expecting that it all can be done exactly right is a recipe for disappointment.  Perfection is the enemy. – Sheryl Sandberg

As the author discussed last week, there is not work/life balance and we need to focus on the seasons of life.  This point was reinforced for the author recently when she was reading Believe It by Jamie Kern Lima.  The entrepreneurship book discusses the ups and downs of building IT Cosmetics.  In the book, Ms. Lima discusses the opportunity she had to ask Meg Whitman a question.  After gaining inner strength, she blurted out a question to Ms. Whitman asking if she worried about her appearance or other things in life.  Her response was “No”.  She continued….

Something has to give.  And something had to give.  With everything in my life, I had to decide what had to give.  I have kids.  And a career.  I couldn’t keep my house the way Martha Stewart would.  Things have to give.  And that wasn’t something I worried about. (pp. 240)

The author would love to say she could do it all, but she knows she cannot.  As the author was researching this topic, she found the below quote:

If I had to embrace a definition of success, it would be that success is making the best choices we can….and accepting them. – Sheryl Sandberg

ACTION: What choices have you made that you now question?  Be content with decisions you made that cannot be changed.  For those opportunities that something can be changed, is this the time to do it?  As we enter summer and a new season, this is the perfect time to make changes in our lives. 

 

 

Resource

 

·       Lima, J. (2021).  Believe It.  Gallery Books. New York. (e-book)

·       A Balancing Act with Kennedy - https://radio.foxnews.com/podcast/everything-will-be-okay/#:~:text=A%20Balancing%20Act,World%C2%A0podcast%2C%C2%A0Kennedy

·        https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-balance-2/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://the-john-maxwell-executive-leadership-podcast-learner-guides.s3.amazonaws.com/Episode+169+Guide+-+Your+Year+End+Leadership+Checkup+Booklet.pdf

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-opportunity/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-timing/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://pastorrick.com/gods-dream-is-for-your-good-and-his-glory/

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-create/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://healingbrave.com/blogs/all/quotes-embracing-seasons-of-life

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - May 24, 2022

Be aware of what season you are in and give yourself the grace to be there. — Kristen Dalton

Balance should be over the course of your life not just in the immediate time frame. – Kennedy (in Everything Will be Okay podcast)

A few years ago, all the rage was work/life balance.  Balancing life and career is not easy.  There are times when balance just cannot occur because work may need to be the focus or there may be a time when family or something else may need to be the focus.  It is not always easy to make these hard decisions and it is wise to have a perspective on how to handle these times.  

In John Maxwell’s Minute with Maxwell video on balance, he states:

You have to cooperate with the seasons if you are going to get the most out of them. – John Maxwell

The author is the first to say that going through seasons of life is not easy.  She has wanted certain dreams for many, many years and questions why things have not happened as she dreamed.  During those waiting times, she puts her focus on her career.  After her dreams come true and she looks back, the author will know that the focus on her career in the difficult season of her life was the right thing, but it is difficult in the present to understand.  When the author gets frustrated and does not understand why, the author strives to take the advice of the below quote:

Joy is not a season, it’s a way of living. — Kalley Heiligenthal

 

ACTION: What season of life are you in?  Would you prefer to be in a different season?  How are you handling it?  What can you do differently to help focus and use this time to prepare for your dream even though other dreams may not be happening?

 

                                                                                

Resource

 

·       A Balancing Act with Kennedy - https://radio.foxnews.com/podcast/everything-will-be-okay/#:~:text=A%20Balancing%20Act,World%C2%A0podcast%2C%C2%A0Kennedy

·        https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-balance-2/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://the-john-maxwell-executive-leadership-podcast-learner-guides.s3.amazonaws.com/Episode+169+Guide+-+Your+Year+End+Leadership+Checkup+Booklet.pdf

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-opportunity/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-timing/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://pastorrick.com/gods-dream-is-for-your-good-and-his-glory/

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-create/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://healingbrave.com/blogs/all/quotes-embracing-seasons-of-life