Tuesday, February 12, 2019

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - Febraury 12, 2019


If I need to remind myself to bring something with me in the morning, I’ll usually put my car keys on top of it. - Des Traynor


Where your attention goes, your time goes. - Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability


Time management is about life management. - Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability


Consistency established your reputation. – Terri Savelle Foy


Here are the last three productivity suggestions:


Reclaim Dead Time


Going to a lot of events in D.C., I often have a lot of “dead time”.  With the traffic in this town and metro issues, I allow extra time in my schedule to make sure I am not late to an event.  Quite often, I arrive early and have a 20- or 30-minute wait before a meeting.  With this “dead time”, I have learned to take a book with me to read, sometimes I listen to a podcast or catch up on phone calls.  By having something to do during “dead time”, productivity increases!


Limit Number of Times Checking Email


Technology is wonderful, but it can be one of the biggest prohibitors of productivity.  It is very easy to get distracted when a “ding” sounds or when waiting “patiently” for someone to respond to an email.  Many experts suggest limiting the number of times in a day email is reviewed.  Some productivity experts recommend two times per day (morning and evening).  To make sure email does not overwhelm at the end of the day, the author suggests three times a day.  Check in the morning, around lunch to handle any issues from the morning and then check at the end of the day.  For the mid-day email check, it would be wise to limit the amount of time spent checking email or the whole afternoon could be spent “cleaning” out email.


Get Organized and Clean Out


When Opportunity Comes, It’s Too Late to Prepare. – John Wooten


As we are going full force and dreaming of “magic” for the year, it is important to be prepared when it comes.  During slow times when the weather is cold and now that football is over, it is a great time to prepare for dreams.  Does that mean a busier life may be in the future and cleaning out the house needs to occur?  Does that mean writing a book and being prepared when you meet the publisher?  That is for you to decide!


Preparation time is NEVER wasted time! – Terri Savelle Foy


CHALLENGE: What actions can you do now to prepare for when your dreams come true?   DO IT!


Resources

Terri Savelle Foy - https://www.facebook.com/terrisavellefoy/ - February 2, 2019


The World's Most Successful People Don't Actually Start Work at 4 a.m. They Wake and Work Whenever the (Heck) They Decide - https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/the-worlds-most-successful-people-dont-actually-start-work-at-4-am-they-wake-work-whenever-heck-they-decide.html



The "Block Schedule" System - LIFE CHANGING productivity hack! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BKuSlstIBM&t=720s

10 Habits Of Unsuccessful People You Don’t Want To Copy - https://dariusforoux.com/10-habits-of-unsuccessful-people-you-dont-want-to-copy/











Tuesday, February 5, 2019

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - February 5th


People think, 'If I could only get motivated, then I'll act.' Nope. In actuality, it's the opposite. - Brendon Burchard


Waking up early, connecting with nature, and having my quiet time are priorities to me, and they are non-negotiable. - Danette May


If I fail to follow my morning routine I try to get a hard workout in. A hard workout is like a manual restart of the day. - Aubrey Marcus


Routines are powerful when they become rituals that no longer require conscious thought and willpower. Without iteration, however, they can become stale and can be hard to keep up. - Joel Gascoigne



Readers of this blog know I am a routine person.  Recently, I had a dream about my morning routine and that is when I knew had come to a new level of intention about my routines!


Morning Routine

Some articles state that to be successful a person has to be a morning person that gets up at 4am or they have to work out before they go to the office.  However, I would challenge that there is no right way to have a morning routine.  I am an individual that wakes up at 5am no matter what time I go to bed probably because I have been getting up early for so many years of my life.  However, there are some people that can not get out of bed until 7am.  No matter what time you get up, it is important to incorporate a morning routine into your life. 


Now is a great time to think about what you want to accomplish each morning.  Being a month into the year, have you said, “I wish I still didn’t do that” in the morning?  What do you need to incorporate or change in your life to make it easier in the morning?


For me, I have my morning routine of getting up, turning on a podcast, going to the gym and then return to my apartment to start completing my daily tasks.  Rarely do I stray from this and when I do, I can honestly say my whole day feels off.


Nightly Routine

After my technology detox realization, I did start thinking about what technology I wanted to remove from my life.  For me, I love to read and always want to take time to read when I can.  One of my favorite things to do in the evening was to complete my nightly activities and then climb into bed to read.  However, the problem for me is that reading in the evening actually puts me to sleep. 


At the beginning of 2019, I changed my nightly routine.  I changed my routine to where I now read from 7-8pm allowing me to be awake and learning while reading.  After that, I now clean up my apartment and prepare for the next day.  Then, I climb into bed and do something with technology.  Many scientist and doctors would be aghast at this because they believe the light from phones or iPads, etc. can actually spark brain function causing people to stay awake.  However, at this time, I do not agree with these individuals.  I have no problem falling asleep after scrolling through Facebook, watching a television show or a movie on my phone.  For me, it allows my mind to wander, relax and then I fall asleep. 


CHALLENGE: Evaluate your morning and nightly routines.  What changes do you need to make to make your life more productive?  Remember that there is no perfect way and it should be what is best for you. 



Resources

The 5 Morning Habits That Make Me Super-Productive - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMrnsi8Vgxw&feature=youtu.be

The World's Most Successful People Don't Actually Start Work at 4 a.m. They Wake and Work Whenever the (Heck) They Decide - https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/the-worlds-most-successful-people-dont-actually-start-work-at-4-am-they-wake-work-whenever-heck-they-decide.html


The "Block Schedule" System - LIFE CHANGING productivity hack! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BKuSlstIBM&t=720s

10 Habits Of Unsuccessful People You Don’t Want To Copy - https://dariusforoux.com/10-habits-of-unsuccessful-people-you-dont-want-to-copy/













Tuesday, January 29, 2019

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 29th


You will never find time for anything.  If you want time, you must make it. – Charles Buxton, English philanthropist, writer and member of Parliament


Hurry is the great enemy of spiritual life in our day. You must ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life. - Dallas Willard


Comfort is the enemy of progress. – Craig Groeschel


Now that the reader has contemplated a technology detox, it is a great time to start thinking about other ways to be more productive in 2019 to help accomplish goals and still allow time for “magic” in life.  Here are the first 3 productive ideas:


Scheduling

There are two ways to work with time.  Gary Keller (co-founder and Chairman of the Board for Keller Williams Realty) stated in his book The One Thing that people have craziness in life and often have many distractions that prohibit them from accomplishing projects.  Keller suggests that individuals schedule time in their day to accomplish “The One Thing” they NEED to accomplish that day.  He daily sets time to accomplish the one thing he HAS to do and does not allows interruptions to disrupt him from accomplishing his task/project.  When this task/project/activity is complete, he handles all of the other day-to-day tasks.


Another option is “Block Schedule” time throughout the day to accomplish tasks/activities.  In the YouTube video that discussed this idea (link provided in Resources), it referred back to block schedules that students had in high school.  The concept is to determine certain times to complete certain parts of a person’s life such as work tasks for project 9-11am, 12-1pm (which would be a lunch hour) personal errands and then complete activities that relate to that part of the person’s life during that time.


Environment

When working, what is the best environment for you to work in?  Some people can be in a coffee shop doing work while other individuals need complete silence to work.  Neither way is wrong because we are all created differently.  What is important is to know how you work best and then implement it to be the most productive!


Delegate

Listening and reading various books, articles, etc., it is evident that saying “no” to non-goal-oriented tasks can be one the best way for people to accomplish their goals and ultimately their life’s purpose. 


Many leadership podcasts talk about the art of delegation allowing the leader to place a task in the capable hands of someone else, while they work on another activity.  If a leader does not want to delegate the task, they have to decide if it is a task they HAVE to do or is it something that is not necessary in their life anymore. 


CHALLENGE: Which one of the productivity ideas do you think you can incorporate into your life this week?



Resources

The "Block Schedule" System - LIFE CHANGING productivity hack! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BKuSlstIBM&t=720s


The World's Most Successful People Don't Actually Start Work at 4 a.m. They Wake and Work Whenever the (Heck) They Decide - https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/the-worlds-most-successful-people-dont-actually-start-work-at-4-am-they-wake-work-whenever-heck-they-decide.html



10 Habits Of Unsuccessful People You Don’t Want To Copy - https://dariusforoux.com/10-habits-of-unsuccessful-people-you-dont-want-to-copy/













Tuesday, January 22, 2019

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 22nd


For any happiness, even in this world, quite a lot of restraint is going to be necessary... ― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity


Good, better, best. Never let it rest. 'Til your good is better and your better is best. ― St. Jerome


Find Your Balance. ― Kayla Kotecki


In the last couple of months, I was thinking about various television shows I watch and when I started thinking about deleting one from my DVR, I was actually scared that I would miss out on something.  When this happened, I knew I had a problem! 


According to the Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt in The coddling of the American mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure, they believe there is an increase in mental illness in our country due to the frequent use of smartphones and electronic devices.  They state that spending less than 2 hours on a device does not have a detrimental effect on an individual; however, individuals that spend several hours a day on electronic devices have been shown to have an increase in mental health issues.


I will be the first to admit that I need to work on my technology usage because it is so easy to turn on the television after a long day and watch mindless television or scroll through Facebook.  What makes it even worse is according to Paul Lewis in his article titled Our minds can be hijacked': the tech insiders who fear a smartphone dystopia, developers have learned how to use small psychological tricks that “trigger” or create a “craving” for individuals incentivizing them to continually return to their technology. 


As I have written in previous blogs, technology is very helpful and I am not suggesting getting rid of all of it.  However, now that a new year has started and new goals are set, it is a good time to digitally detox. 


Give yourself time to digitally detox from your constantly connected life, and keep your phone away from your bed. - Caroline Ghosn



CHALLENGE: Evaluate your technology usage (social media, television, etc.) and determine how you want to change your usage.  How do you plan on preventing the triggers and cravings that are incorporated into increasing usage?



Resources

Prior, Karen Swallow. (2018) On reading well: finding the good life through great books. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Brazos Press.

Lukianoff, Greg and Haidt, Jonathan. (2018) The coddling of the American mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure. New York; Penguin Press. 

Lewis, Paul. (2017). Our minds can be hijacked': the tech insiders who fear a smartphone dystopia. The Guardian. Retrieved from https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/oct/05/smartphone-addiction-silicon-valley-dystopia.


Tuesday, January 15, 2019

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 15th


The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda. - John C. Maxwell


People who use time wisely spend it on activities that advance their overall purpose in life. – John Maxwell


Whatever you are be a good one. – Abraham Lincoln


Last week, I talked about the statement that Meghan Markle posted on her website at the beginning of 2016 talking about allowing for “magic” in her life. The magic she received that year was meeting Prince Harry and having a royal wedding in 2018.  I was challenged by this statement because I want magic in 2019, but also want to keep striving for more knowledge.  


Contemplating this, I thought back to John Maxwell’s perspective of the 80/20 Rule, which is also known as the Pareto Principle.  The 80/20 Rule states that 80% of outcomes come from 20% of inputs.  John Maxwell knows that he is only good at a few things and does not want to waste his time on things that he cannot do.  He believes that an individual should focus on the things that they are good at and they will not waste time on the things that they are not good at.  This same principle should be used in goal setting.  Set goals that will help you grow and move you toward your dreams and purpose. 


Additionally, it is important to create steps of how to accomplish the goal.  Craig Groeschel calls this “Outcome vs. Income Goals”.  Outcome states what the end goal is and the input goal is the planned action steps to accomplish the goal.  By breaking down the goals into smaller steps, it helps keep focused on goals that you are good at and will move you closer to accomplishing your dreams and allowing time for “magic” to happen.  Additionally, by not having too many goals and focusing on the important things, you will be able to be present when you need to be.  Craig Groeschel said in his leadership podcast on October 5, 2016:


Wherever you are, be all there.


CHALLENGE:  Review the goals created last week.  Do they follow the 80/20 Rule by focusing on your strengths and helping move you closer to accomplishing your dreams?  Revise your goals if needed. 



Resources



The Complexity of Purpose, Part 1 & 2 – Andy Stanley - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/andy-stanley-leadership-podcast/id290055666#

https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/how-an-assassination-attempt-changed-ronald-reagans-presidency-and-history

Tuesday, January 8, 2019

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 8th


Success is...knowing your purpose in life, growing to reach your maximum potential, and sowing seeds that benefit others. ― John C. Maxwell

Now that everyone knows their purpose, it is time to start writing 2019 goals.  As I started contemplating what I wanted to accomplish this year, I started thinking about what I accomplished in 2018.  For me, my life allowed for a stretch goal that allowed me to increase my knowledge and read all of the books in my book pile that I had been wanting to read for years.  When I started writing my goals for 2019, I started thinking about how many books I wanted to read, how many podcasts I wanted to listen to and what other activities/tasks/adventures I wanted to experience. 

One day, I was scrolling through articles and I found one discussing Meghan Markle’s new years resolutions.  The article included the following statement that Markle included on her website at the beginning of 2016, which was the year she met Prince Harry:

For this new year, the only thing I aim to do is to approach life playfully. To laugh and enjoy, to keep my standards high but my level of self-acceptance higher.  My New Year’s resolution is to leave room for magic. To make my plans, and be okay if they sometimes break. To set my goals, but to be open to change.

This statement spoke to me because I want to set goals in 2019, learn as much as I possible can and be a better individual at the end of the year.  However, I also need to make sure that my life is not to structured allowing for the “magic” to happen.  Next week, I will talk about how I set my goals to focus on accomplishing my dreams and allowing for “cushion” so that magic can happen. 

CHALLENGE:  Write your 2019 goals.  Previous blog posts about setting S.M.A.R.T. goals can be found in the resources section below.

Resources
https://oneboldmove.com/8020_rule/

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 1st


Stress happens when you try to be something you’re not. We all start off as originals, but too often we end up as carbon copies of somebody else—because we don’t know who we are. – Rick Warren (November 7, 2018)


Your life has purpose.  Your story is important.  Your dreams count.  Your voice matters.  You were born to make an impact. – Unknown (On Wings of Hope)


Balance isn’t fitting everything in.  It’s starting with what’s important and letting the rest fall as it will.  – Erica Layne



Why are you on earth?


On March 30, 1981 at 2:25pm, Ronald Wilson Reagan was leaving the Washington Hilton and John Hinckley shot him under his left arm.  After recovering from surgery and discovering how close the bullet came to hitting his heart, President Reagan told many people including Pope John Paul II that he believed he was spared for a “purpose”.  Reagan soon took actions including passing his tax plan, appointing the first woman to the United States Supreme Court (Sandra Day O’Connor) and had three meetings with Mikhail Gorbachev, president of the Soviet Union, which lead to the Berlin Wall falling and victory in the Cold War. 


When I heard this story about President Reagan, it made me think about my own life purpose statement.  Many years ago, I heard Lynette Lewis (lynettelewis.com) talk about how she had created her own life purpose statement and I took the time to create my own.  My statement is six words and talks about what my overall purpose in life is.  It does not talk about any aspect of my profession or personal life, but talks about how I want to treat people.  Cheryl Bachelder highlighted this in her book Dare to Serve by saying that the point of purpose is to determine how you will serve others.

When I go through trials in life when absolutely nothing seems to be going right and frustration, disappointment and confusion set in, I take time to refer back to my life purpose statement to remind myself why I am on this earth.  


The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. – Mark Twain


Success is … knowing your purpose in life, growing to reach your maximum potential, and sowing seeds that benefit others. – John Maxwell



CHALLENGE:  As we embark on 2019, this is a great time to write a life purpose statement or review your life purpose statement and set your 2019 goals based on it.   To learn how to write your own life purpose statement, review Terri’s Tuesday Tip of the Week from December 8, 2015: https://tuesdaytipoftheweek.blogspot.com/2015/12/terris-tuesday-tip-of-week-december-8th.html.



Resources

The Complexity of Purpose, Part 1 & 2 – Andy Stanley - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/andy-stanley-leadership-podcast/id290055666#

https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/how-an-assassination-attempt-changed-ronald-reagans-presidency-and-history




Lynette Lewis - How to Know Your Purpose and Live Your Dreams - Thrive Church - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/thrive-church-audio-podcast/id605809974?mt=2&i=1000411699868







Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - December 18th


“It certainly is a puzzle.” He turned back to the broken road. “But sometimes to find the answer, you have to take a leap of faith.” ― Dianna Hardy, Summer's End


God's will is like a jigsaw puzzle until you put all the pieces together, you won't be able to see the whole picture. ― Danny L. Deaubé


Dare to ask questions and seek answers to the puzzles of life. ― Lailah Gifty Akita



As I was watching all of the coverage of President George H.W. Bush (41) a couple weeks ago, I heard one commentator say that President George W. Bush (43) did not believe that he would have been president if Ronald Reagan had not selected his father to be his Vice President.  Additionally, in Jon Meacham’s book Destiny and Power: The American Odyssey of George Herbert Walker Bush, Bush (41) did not want to accept the Director of the Central Intelligence Agency in 1976 when President Ford asked him to serve because he thought his presidential aspirations would be forever doomed by holding that cabinet post.  However, the puzzle pieces of life fit together, and he did become the 41st President of the United States. 


Throughout my life, I have encountered various life events good and bad that I did not understand why I had to go through them.  Not until after the life event occurred and I thought about it did I understand how that “puzzle pieces” all fit together to prepare me for the future.  


Lesson Learned: Embrace the Puzzle Pieces of Life! 


CHALLENGE: Think back over your life to find the activities/events/jobs/experiences that have been the “puzzle pieces” for your life and reminisce about how they all fit together now. 



Resources


Meacham, Jon. 2015. Destiny and Power: The American Odyssey of George Herbert Walker Bush. New York City, New York: Random House.


Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - December 11th


Switch your mentality from “I’m broken and helpless” to “I’m growing and healing” and watch how your life changes for the better.  – amazingmemovement.com 


She’s been through more Hell then you’ll ever know.  But, that’s what giver her beauty an edge…You can’t touch a woman who can wear pain like the grandest of diamonds around her neck. - Alfa


A woman who can take her pain and create something to be used for God's purpose and glory...She's brilliant and she knows how to shine. - A Modern Day Ruth


We all go through trials and tribulations in life.  Those trials and tribulations often cause hurt, pain and bad memories in our lives.  Often times, those memories stay engrained on our minds and continue to affect our lives.  When I met my Marine, a lot of past pain was brought to my remembrance.  To have a good relationship with him, I learned I was going to have to take time to work through those issues.  None of the issues I am dealing with are his fault and I want a healthy relationship with him. 


For any of us to have healthy, successful lives, overcoming our past is important.  It is vital to take the time to overcome the past. 


Lesson Learned: Get Healed from the Past! 


CHALLENGE: Determine the pain from your past and contemplate how you will overcome it.  



Resources

https://www.facebook.com/strongwomen2012/photos/a.314876281900637/1942707559117493/?type=3&theater







Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - December 4th


Sometimes you have to let go of the picture of what you thought life would be like and learn to find joy in the story you are actually living. - Rachel Marie Martin, Findingjoy.net, The brave Art of Motherhood

Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach. - Tony Robbins

I don't understand why things happen the way they do, but I do know that God is in control and has a perfect plan for every situation. - Unknown

It's never luck or fate, it's God's perfect plan. - Stephen Samuel

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps. - Proverbs 16:9

As a dreamer and very goal-oriented person, I create a plan to accomplish the dream/vision and then I implement the plan to accomplish it.  However, that is not life and I learned that this year.  I was absolutely determined that I had met the man of my dreams in 2017.  He met all of the qualifications that I had prayed for and there were things that he did to show his interest.  However, he never made a serious move.  This went on for over a year.  The ups and downs were not good for my emotions.  In mid-June, there was a tall, blonde-haired man that showed up at my church.  I noticed him, but thought he was younger than me.  I asked one of my friends to do “recon” on him for me.  Come to find out, yes, he is younger than me and he is also a Marine with blue eyes.  We officially met on July 15th and by mid-August he made a move and we have been dating ever since.  As of the writing of this blog post, that is about 3.5 months.

I learned that I saw what I thought was the right “opportunity” for me but learned that there was another “opportunity” that exceeded anything I could have prayed for.  I don’t know how this will end up, but I do know that I learned that I have to be open to other options and flexible with how I will accomplish my dreams.  

Lesson Learned: Be Open to Other Options!

CHALLENGE: What have you been determined is the “right opportunity” for you?  Is there a change that you need to make in 2019 to provide the opportunity for new options?



Resource