Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - March 22, 2022

 Regardless of our titles or years of experience, we can learn from each other. Through mentoring and by being open to learn where we can reach our ultimate potential. –Lily Benjamin

Don’t listen to what people say.  Watch what they do. – picture quotes.com

Last week, the author talked about mentoring in mainly a professional setting.  Now, let’s look at it from the personal perspective.  When the author returned to Texas, she immediately started attending different groups so that she could meet people.  One specific place she has meet people is at her church.  Previously, she had volunteered at a church and met great people so she started weekly serving again.  Through this, she has met great ladies that she is learning from based on their personal lives and even some of them in a professional setting.  

The reader might ask how are these individuals mentoring the author.  These “mentors” are a diverse mixture of married and single individuals from all walks of life that have lived different stories and many of them have families.  The author is intentional in gaining wisdom of how they have lived life as working women, with their children and their relationships with their spouses.  One of the ladies has a great husband that has become an acquaintance to the author because his sense of humor is wonderful.  From these different individuals, the author is preparing for growth and new opportunities in her personal life. 

For these situations, there is not a monthly coffee where the author asks questions.  She watches how each of these individuals live their lives and incorporates traits that she sees into her life. 

 

I no longer listen to what people say, I just watch what they do.  Behavior never lies. – Winston Churchill

  

ACTION: This week, take time to see who in your personal life is a mentor.  How do you intentionally gain wisdom from these individuals that you are able to incorporate into your life?

 

Resource

 

·       https://www.pushfar.com/article/mentoring-vs-coaching-the-key-differences-and-benefits/#:~:text=The%20Differences%20Between%20Mentoring%20and%20Coaching%201%20Mentoring,a%20lot%20more%20directive.%20...%20More%20items...%20

·       https://www.td.org/insights/mentoring-versus-coaching-whats-the-difference

·       https://www.liveyourmark.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/1231.png

·       https://i.pinimg.com/originals/54/49/6c/54496c2295a270f35759dd56bddbb0ae.jpg

·       https://www.mentorresources.com/mentoring-blog/20-inspiring-mentoring-quotes

·       https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/reverse-mentoring#:~:text=What%20is%20reverse%20mentoring%3F%20Reverse%20mentoring%20is%20a,often%20focus%20on%20new%20technology%20and%20business%20practices.

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-author/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/the-three-types-of-mentors-every-person-needs-to-help-them-grow/

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/smart-voices-in-your-ear/

·       https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/25-positive-quotes-mentoring-antoinette-oglethorpe/

·       https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/watching-quotes

·       https://cdn.quotesgram.com/img/66/66/304033595-dont-listen-to-what-people-say-watch-what-they-do-quote-1.jpg

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - March 15, 2022

 A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself. — Oprah Winfrey

A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you. — Bob Proctor

According to “The Three Types of Mentors Every Person Needs to Help Them Grow” by John Maxwell , a mentor “teaches, guides and lifts you up by virtue of his or her experience and insight”.  As the author thought about the many mentors in her life, she thought about the various men and women she had conversations with leading up to her move to DC and during her time there.  She talked with people that worked on Capitol Hill, different federal agencies, the military, businesses that interacted with The Hill, etc.  During those conversations, she would try to have one solid question to start the conversation and then would ask additional questions as the conversation proceeded.  Additionally, she had done her research on those individuals she specifically asked to meet with so that she would understand their background to make sure she asked questions relevant to them.  Moreover, the author would focus on topics that she was targeting to learn about.  Sometimes it would be research into how DC worked, other times she focused on leadership or how the individuals she was talking to pursued their goals even with the twist and turns of one’s career. 

 Many times, the author would be mentored in group conversations and other times mentoring occurred in an individual conversation with someone at coffee, lunch or dinner.  For the author, there is no “perfect” way to have a mentoring session.  The goal is to grow through experiences of other people. 

 

ACTION: In your professional life, review your acquaintances and contacts to determine who you would like to ask to have coffee with and make the request.  Once the meeting is on the calendar, prepare to talk with the person to ensure you are prepared and it is a good use of the mentor’s time. 

 

Resource 

·       https://www.pushfar.com/article/mentoring-vs-coaching-the-key-differences-and-benefits/#:~:text=The%20Differences%20Between%20Mentoring%20and%20Coaching%201%20Mentoring,a%20lot%20more%20directive.%20...%20More%20items...%20

·       https://www.td.org/insights/mentoring-versus-coaching-whats-the-difference

·       https://www.liveyourmark.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/1231.png

·       https://i.pinimg.com/originals/54/49/6c/54496c2295a270f35759dd56bddbb0ae.jpg

·       https://www.mentorresources.com/mentoring-blog/20-inspiring-mentoring-quotes

·       https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/reverse-mentoring#:~:text=What%20is%20reverse%20mentoring%3F%20Reverse%20mentoring%20is%20a,often%20focus%20on%20new%20technology%20and%20business%20practices.

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-author/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/the-three-types-of-mentors-every-person-needs-to-help-them-grow/

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/smart-voices-in-your-ear/

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - March 8, 2022

 A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment. - John Wooden

 Who, exactly, seeks out a coach? If you ask a coach the answer is usually the same: Winners who want even more out of life. - Abigail Pickus, 2000

As the reader was contemplating if they needed a coach in this season of their life or if they needed a mentor, what was the decision?  When the author thought about her current situation, she laughed because she is going to have both a coach and mentors. 

This will not be the first time the author had a coach.  During a tough time at work, the author sought out resources that provided her a coach as she was developing as a supervisor.  Also, she was encountering touch situations with management and decided she needed an outside source to give an unbiased opinion.  For the author, she needed the individual that would stand up to her and tell her the situation was not her fault.  The author provided real life situations to the coach and they discussed options and pros and cons to each one.  As mentioned last week, the coach rarely mentioned her personal situation and consistently worked to develop the author. 

Coaching is unlocking people’s potential to maximize their own performance. It is more often helping them to learn rather than teaching them. - John Whitmore, author and founder of the GROW model of coaching, Coaching for Performance, 2010

 

ACTION: Research this week coaching options in your local area or at your workplace to see if this might be a good opportunity to help you grow.  The author is using a resource that is free through her place of employment. 

 

Resource

 

·       https://www.pushfar.com/article/mentoring-vs-coaching-the-key-differences-and-benefits/#:~:text=The%20Differences%20Between%20Mentoring%20and%20Coaching%201%20Mentoring,a%20lot%20more%20directive.%20...%20More%20items...%20

·       https://www.td.org/insights/mentoring-versus-coaching-whats-the-difference

·       https://www.liveyourmark.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/1231.png

·       https://i.pinimg.com/originals/54/49/6c/54496c2295a270f35759dd56bddbb0ae.jpg

·       https://www.mentorresources.com/mentoring-blog/20-inspiring-mentoring-quotes

·       https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/reverse-mentoring#:~:text=What%20is%20reverse%20mentoring%3F%20Reverse%20mentoring%20is%20a,often%20focus%20on%20new%20technology%20and%20business%20practices.

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-author/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/the-three-types-of-mentors-every-person-needs-to-help-them-grow/

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/smart-voices-in-your-ear/

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - March 1, 2022

 The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled. - Plutarch

 I am not a teacher, but an awakener. - Robert Frost

 

Over the last two months, Terri’s Tuesday Tip of the Week has discussed different ways to be more productive in life.  Now that there is more time in the day, it is time to think about how to use that time in 2022.

 

The author suggests that the reader take this opportunity for growth.  Over the years, the author has talked about reading, ways to learn, etc.  During the coming weeks, the author will discuss news ideas for growth and some recent lessons she learned.  For this growth, the author will be focusing on how other people will be able to assist in this growth.

 

A mentor is a more experienced individual willing to share knowledge with someone less experienced in a relationship of mutual trust. – David Clutterbuc

 

First, let’s discuss the difference between mentoring and coaching.  Both of these options provide an opportunity for self-improvement and provide a safe environment to share personal experiences.  Mentoring is usually advice on how the mentor navigated experiences and accomplished their dreams and goals.  Often times, mentoring can be reversed and the mentee teaches and imparts knowledge into the mentor.  In contrast, coaching focuses on the development of skills and tailored to the needs of the client.  There is not two-way growth.  Coaches focus on developing their clients. 

 

Coaching is unlocking people’s potential to maximise their own performance. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them.’ – John Whitmore, in Coaching for Performance

 

ACTION: This week, take time to determine if you want a mentor or a coach to help propel you to accomplish your dreams and goals in 2022.

 

Resource

 

·       https://www.pushfar.com/article/mentoring-vs-coaching-the-key-differences-and-benefits/#:~:text=The%20Differences%20Between%20Mentoring%20and%20Coaching%201%20Mentoring,a%20lot%20more%20directive.%20...%20More%20items...%20

·       https://www.td.org/insights/mentoring-versus-coaching-whats-the-difference

·       https://www.liveyourmark.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/1231.png

·       https://i.pinimg.com/originals/54/49/6c/54496c2295a270f35759dd56bddbb0ae.jpg

·       https://www.mentorresources.com/mentoring-blog/20-inspiring-mentoring-quotes

·       https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/reverse-mentoring#:~:text=What%20is%20reverse%20mentoring%3F%20Reverse%20mentoring%20is%20a,often%20focus%20on%20new%20technology%20and%20business%20practices.

·       https://johnmaxwellteam.com/2022-author/?c=jmax-em-np-bo&jmtc=mwm-word&jmta=mwm-word-cta

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/the-three-types-of-mentors-every-person-needs-to-help-them-grow/

·       https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/smart-voices-in-your-ear/

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - February 22, 2022

Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.

― Vincent Van Gogh

Little drops of water make the mighty ocean. ― Julia Carney

One of the hardest productivity issues the author has tried to conquer is the television and it has been very difficult for her.  Both January and February, the author started the month with the goal of not watching television except for knowledge purposes and tried to find other activities to keep her occupied; however, loneliness, boredom and mental fatigue were some of the reasons she did not accomplish her goal.  At times, she would beat herself up for not persisting and accomplishing her goal, but finally decided her best option was to limit the amount of television she viewed and target more programs that were uplifting, encouraging and educational.  With the time she was not watching television, she would read, go on excursions and meet new people.

 

When trying to find ways to become more productive, we need to review the things that we have been doing to determine if we should continue, limit or completely stop the activities.  Completely stopping activities can be very difficult if there is not something to replace the activity as the author learned. 

 

The Cardinal Rule of Behavior Change: What gets rewarded, gets repeated. What gets punished, gets avoided. Don't reward behavior you don't want to see repeated. – James Clear

 

Simple, small changes will help with productivity and help refocus the reader as they work on accomplishing their dreams and goals.

 

ACTION: Review current tasks to determine if there are any activities that should be stopped or limited in your life and determine what will replace those activities so that you will be successful in making the lifestyle changes. 

 

Resource

·       https://www.newhealthadvisor.org/the-negative-effects-of-watching-television.html#:~:text=%20Negative%20Effects%20on%20Adults%20%201%20Research,and%20feel%20bored%20of%20living%20a...%20More%20

·       https://www.michaeldpollock.com/how-i-overcame-tv-addiction/

·       https://www.or-nc.com/how-to-deal-with-withdrawal-5-key-tips-to-know/

·       https://www.ramseysolutions.com/personal-growth/how-to-create-your-perfect-schedule

·       https://www.life.church/media/pre-decide/the-power-of-consistency/

·       https://productivity95.com/gtd-masterclass%E2%80%95part-i/

·       https://productivity95.com/what-gets-scheduled-gets-done-really/#:~:text=What%20Gets%20Scheduled%20Gets%20Done%3A%20Really%3F%20You%20probably,by%20providing%20a%20mental%20landscape%20to%20your%20week

·       https://ideavisionaction.com/productivity/what-gets-scheduled-gets-done/

·       https://api-assets.life.church/uploads/message/1854/podcast_show_notes/q-a-with-rory-vaden-procrastinate-on-purpose.pdf?utm_medium=email&_hsmi=125463594&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-_bQw_pVdBrUnIy1HFAEIlXRyUH5LQ5wnluxeKmhjHkFQmWrc9cJPqRoR5gylvsyJswl6fXo-OWcrM4INTNlbRb_dDxFQ&utm_content=125463594&utm_source=hs_email

·       https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/100-powerful-quotes-that-will-boost-your-productivity.html

·       https://api-assets.life.church/uploads/message/2029/podcast_show_notes/3-secrets-to-starting-new-habits-that-stick.pdf?utm_medium=email&_hsmi=201376837&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9LzcAPj0UR9oVQPIucCzF6h5rsn2HGA9yrLfsOzwQnLG86GhNZFQAN2hanludg-wyYQO4ClK7M13wpfgs7q6GJMjWSPw&utm_content=201376837&utm_source=hs_email

·       https://blog.vantagecircle.com/quotes-on-productivity/

·       https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/100-powerful-quotes-that-will-boost-your-productivity.html

·       https://www.inc.com/jeff-steen/in-1-sentence-tony-robbins-reveals-how-to-avoid-mistake-that-dooms-so-many-leaders.html?cid=sf01002&fbclid=IwAR3m8uyljkheWRaBAzL04bgq0wAjRRPSrfeSdTdzFA8M5gZLDhKt3erJt7Q

 

 

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - February 15, 2022

 Instead of thinking outside the box, get rid of the box. – Deepak Chopra

 

If what you’ve done over the past 5 years hasn’t worked for you, then change what you’re doing or the next 5 years will be the same. - John Carlton, The Entrepreneur’s Guide to Getting Your Shit Together

 

A morning routine is something that should become like ordinary activities to be accomplished first thing in the morning and then the reader is prepared to take on the rest of the day.  As the author said, she is a morning person and is ready to go when she gets up.  However, many people are not the same.  Trying to accomplish the morning routine with handling family matters can be difficult and it is time to think outside the box to accomplish the morning routine.  Elrod would say to rise earlier to accomplish the morning routine and maybe that will work for some people.  Although, the author has another idea.  What does the reader do in the shower?  Strange question; however, that maybe 10 to 15 minutes that could be used to prepare for the day.

Previously, the author would listen to the news, podcast or a television show not to waste her time in the shower.  However, the author spent less than $5 and laminated her daily affirmations, taped them to her shower wall and reads them daily.  It is a little personal, but that is an additional 15 minutes the author can sleep in and still accomplish her daily routine. 

This week, take time to think outside the box of when the reader can work on their daily routine.  Maybe it will be in the shower, getting ready in the morning, on the drive to the office, riding public transportation, etc. 

A daily routine will be successful because the reader has determined they can do it and want to do it in the time they make available.   

 

Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision. - Tony Robbins

ACTION: Continue to create the daily routine.  Find times that are available to work on the daily tasks and not take time away from family, friends, etc.

 

Resource

·       https://www.ramseysolutions.com/personal-growth/how-to-create-your-perfect-schedule

·       https://www.life.church/media/pre-decide/the-power-of-consistency/

·       https://productivity95.com/gtd-masterclass%E2%80%95part-i/

·       https://productivity95.com/what-gets-scheduled-gets-done-really/#:~:text=What%20Gets%20Scheduled%20Gets%20Done%3A%20Really%3F%20You%20probably,by%20providing%20a%20mental%20landscape%20to%20your%20week

·       https://ideavisionaction.com/productivity/what-gets-scheduled-gets-done/

·       https://api-assets.life.church/uploads/message/1854/podcast_show_notes/q-a-with-rory-vaden-procrastinate-on-purpose.pdf?utm_medium=email&_hsmi=125463594&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-_bQw_pVdBrUnIy1HFAEIlXRyUH5LQ5wnluxeKmhjHkFQmWrc9cJPqRoR5gylvsyJswl6fXo-OWcrM4INTNlbRb_dDxFQ&utm_content=125463594&utm_source=hs_email

·       https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/100-powerful-quotes-that-will-boost-your-productivity.html

·       https://api-assets.life.church/uploads/message/2029/podcast_show_notes/3-secrets-to-starting-new-habits-that-stick.pdf?utm_medium=email&_hsmi=201376837&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9LzcAPj0UR9oVQPIucCzF6h5rsn2HGA9yrLfsOzwQnLG86GhNZFQAN2hanludg-wyYQO4ClK7M13wpfgs7q6GJMjWSPw&utm_content=201376837&utm_source=hs_email

·       https://blog.vantagecircle.com/quotes-on-productivity/

·       https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/100-powerful-quotes-that-will-boost-your-productivity.html

·       https://www.inc.com/jeff-steen/in-1-sentence-tony-robbins-reveals-how-to-avoid-mistake-that-dooms-so-many-leaders.html?cid=sf01002&fbclid=IwAR3m8uyljkheWRaBAzL04bgq0wAjRRPSrfeSdTdzFA8M5gZLDhKt3erJt7Q