Tuesday, October 30, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 30th


Trifles make perfection, and perfection is no trifle. - Michelangelo

Genius is eternal patience. - Michelangelo

There is no greater harm than that of time wasted. - Michelangelo

Lord, grant that I may always desire more than I accomplish. - Michelangelo

Please don't trouble yourself. God didn't make us to abandon us. -  Michelangelo

Michelangelo did not set out to become one of the most famous artists of the Italian Renaissance and forever change European painting, but he did!

As a young boy, Michelangelo was an apprentice to a painter before studying in the sculpture gardens of the Medici family.  In those gardens, he found his passion for sculpting and later in life created masterpieces including David, which today is located at the Galleria dell’Accademia in Florence, Italy, and Pieta located at the Vatican. 

In his early thirties, Pope Julius II asked Michelangelo to switch from sculpting to painting the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel.  At first, he was going to decline the opportunity because he did not think the project would turn out to be significant.  However, he decided to accept the opportunity and as he started painting his imagination began to come up with creative ideas.  The original plan for the Sistine Chapel ceiling was 12 apostles, but the painting morphed into more than 300 figures.  While painting, an observer asked Michelangelo why he focused so much on the corners of the painting because no one would see them.  Michelangelo’s response was, “God will”. 

There is so much to learn from the story of Michelangelo as we are 2 months from the end of the 2018. 

1.       Even if a project/assignment/goal is not something that you enjoy, put your full effort into finishing it this year because God is watching.

2.       The small details matter. 

3.       There may be a dream or goal that does not make sense right now and has not gone anywhere this year.  However, continue pushing through and finish strong because you could change the world.

CHALLENGE: Finish 2018 strong!



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Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 23rd


Life is an adventure in forgiveness. - Norman Cousins

Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much. ― Oscar Wilde

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. ― Mahatma Gandhi, All Men are Brothers: Autobiographical Reflections

When conflict arises, there are often hurt feelings between the individuals that were involved in the conflict.  This provides a great opportunity for forgiveness.   On Facebook, A Modern Day Ruth recently posted:

You don’t have to rebuild a relationship with everyone you’ve forgiven.  Just because you’re at peace doesn’t mean they’re not still toxic.

Forgiveness is not for the other person, but for YOU!  By forgiving, it provides you the opportunity to move on with life and accomplish your dreams.  As I was thinking about this post, I was reminded of Nelson Mandela.  According to International Business Times, Mandela spent 27 years in prison for trying to use violence to end white-minority rule.  After his release, he spent the remaining years of his life trying to bring unity to a divided country.  Four things that he did to build unity were:

1.       Mandela invited one his jailers to dinner on the 20th anniversary of his release from prison.

2.       Mandela invited a prison guard to his inauguration as South Africa’s president.

3.       Mandela lunched with the state prosecutor who tried to have him killed.

4.       Mandela wore the hated green Springbok jersey when he presented the South African Captain the World Cup Trophy in 1995. 

No matter one’s opinion of Mandela, he showed forgiveness after being jailed for 27 years.  He showed his country that it was time to put away hostility and unite as a country.



CHALLENGE: As the holidays approach, is there anyone that you need to forgive to have peace in your family and the opportunity to finish 2018 passionately and begin 2019 strong? 



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Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 16th


Conflict and resolution are two sides of the same coin. ― Haresh Sippy

Making noise doesn't validate your point. ― Thabiso Monkoe, The Azanian

Conflict will happen and how we handle it is the most important thing.  As I have been researching conflict resolution, I have been thinking about various times I have been in conflict.  We are all going to handle conflict differently; however, there are a few things I have learned that I think can be helpful to everyone.

1.       There are two sides to every story and it is important to take time to listen to the other side.  Alaric Hutchinson said:



Bravery is listening even when you don't want to hear it.



In one relationship in my life, I know that my interpretation of what the person says is often different than what the person means.  To help with misinterpretation of statements, I started saying, “For clarification”.  When I say this, it tells the individual I want to understand what was said and helps defuse any defensive feelings. 



2.       After gaining clarification, it is important to remain mindful of the situation.  According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, mindfulness is “the practice of maintaining a nonjudgmental state of heightened or complete awareness of one's thoughts, emotions, or experiences on a moment-to-moment basis.” 



Mindfulness may help you gain insight into your role in conflicts with others, it won’t single-highhandedly help you resolve them.― Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection



3.       Ending conflict is important and it is important to find a resolution for everyone.    



Sometimes, God doesn’t send you into a battle to win it; he sends you to end it. ― Shannon L. Alder



I don’t think anyone ever gets completely used to conflict. If it’s not a little uncomfortable, then it’s not real. The key is to keep doing it anyway. ― Patrick Lencioni, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable

CHALLENGE: What have you learned recently from a conflict that you dealt with?



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Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 9th


All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think? - Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies

Knowing when to fight is just as important as knowing how. - Terry Goodkind, Faith of the Fallen

Conflict is drama, and how people deal with conflict shows you the kind of people they are. - Stephen Moyer

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, conflict is:

a : competitive or opposing action of incompatibles : antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons) a conflict of principles

b : mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands His conscience was in conflict with his duty.

Throughout life, we deal with conflict.  It can be a simple issue such as a difference of opinion on what color pillows to put on a couch or much more in-depth issues.  Conflict no matter the issue can be a hindrance in accomplishing dreams and goals.  In Notorious RBG : the life and times of Ruth Bader Ginsburg and in article by about Justice Ginsburg, she states conflict is counterproductive.  She quoted Eleanor Roosevelt: “Anger, resentment, envy. These are emotions that just sap your energy. They’re not productive and don’t get you anyplace, so get over it.”

Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means. - Ronald Reagan

CHALLENGE: What conflict is there in your life?  How are you going to handle it?



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Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 2nd


Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude. ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. - Marcus Aurelius



Over the last couple of weeks, I have been discussing how important it is to train our minds to think positively and encouragingly about oneself.  D. Martyn Lloyd Jones states that we need to stop letting our minds tell us what to think and instead tell our minds what to think:

“Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself? Take those thoughts that come to you the moment you wake up in the morning. You have not originated them but they are talking to you, they bring back the problems of yesterday, etc. Somebody is talking. Who is talking to you? Your self is talking to you. Now this man’s treatment [in Psalm 42] was this: instead of allowing this self to talk to him, he starts talking to himself. “Why art thou cast down, O my soul?” he asks. His soul had been depressing him, crushing him. So he stands up and says, “Self, listen for moment, I will speak to you.”

As I was dealing with past experiences recently, I had to talk to myself and tell myself I was not what I had been told many years ago.  I had to replace what I was told with strong, positive and confident statements.

CHALLENGE:  Mindsets are one of the most important things that help people accomplish their dreams.  How is your mindset today?



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Tuesday, September 25, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - September 25th


What seems impossible one minute becomes, through faith, possible the next. - Norman Vincent Peale

And if the mind thinks with a believing attitude one can do amazing things. - Norman Vincent Peale

I am not going to limit my service or my message to the world based on what other people think. I am my own person, and I’m going to be myself regardless. Go out and be great – and never apologize for it. - Brendon Burchard

In the Power of the Plus Factor, Norman Vincent Peale tells the following story:

”Once walking through the twisted little streets of Kowloon in Hong Kong, I came upon a tattoo studio. In the window were displayed samples of the tattoos available.”

“On the chest or arms you could have tattooed an anchor or flag or mermaid or whatever. But what struck me with force were three words that could be tattooed on one’s flesh, ‘Born to Lose’.”

“I entered the shop in astonishment and, pointing to those words, asked the Chinese tattoo artist, “Does anyone really have that terrible phrase, Born to Lose, tattooed on his body?”

He replied, “Yes, sometimes.”

“But,” I said, “I just can’t believe that anyone in his right mind would do that.”

“The Chinese man simply tapped his forehead and in broken English said, ‘Before tattoo on body, tattoo on mind.’

The perspective of the tattoo artist speaks of how important a good attitude is and how important it is to strive to be optimistic even in trying times. 

Remember: what you think you will become - good or bad, weak or strong, defeated or victorious. - Norman Vincent Peale



CHALLENGE: Past experiences often tattoo “bad” perspectives on our minds.  It is always a good time to “tattoo” a new perspective on our minds.  What do you plan on tattooing on your mind this week? 



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Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - September 18th


Don't let fear or insecurity stop you from trying new things. Believe in yourself. Do what you love. And most importantly, be kind to others, even if you don't like them. - Stacy London

I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship. - Louisa May Alcott

You don’t get rid of yesterday by talking about it all of the time; You get rid of its effect on you by moving forward. - Kingdom Woman by Dr. Tony Evans and Chrystal Evans Hurst

Does your past control your future?

Over the last month, I have had two opportunities of allowing past experiences dictate how I would handle current situations.  In both situations, I had the opportunity to live in fear of things that happened in the past, live in the fear of “what ifs” or take a risk to see what would happen.  Both situations are looking very good right now and I plan on continuing to push forward.

At the end of the day, worrying is like paying interest on a loan you don’t haven’t taken out yet. Don’t let it paralyze you. (themastershift.com)

When I realized I was allowing fear of things from my past affect my future actions, I did soul searching and research on the internet.  I discovered that the reason I reacted as I did was because the situations I was dealing with were triggers based on past experiences and not the situation I was currently in.  When I realized this, I was able to analyze the situation and determine how to proceed. 

Even today as I was writing this post, I had a situation that affected me.  Instead of calling someone to discuss, I took time to analyze it, processed it for a couple hours and realized why I reacted the way I did.   By learning from these situations, I am helping to overcome the past and prepare myself for my future. 

CHALLENGE:  Are there any past experiences that are controlling you and prohibiting you from accomplishing your dreams?  If so, how do you plan on handling them?



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Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - September 11th


You have the chance every single morning to make that change and be the person you want to be. - Brendon Burchard

With the right habits, anyone can dramatically increase results and become a high performer in almost any field of endeavor. – Brendon Burchard

A change in bad habits leads to a change in life. - Jenny Craig

The only proper way to eliminate bad habits is to replace them with good ones. - Jerome Hines

Over the summer months, did the snooze button get hit a lot?  Is this a new “bad” habit started due to the craziness of summer?  Stand-up comedian Demetrius Martin said:  

If you really think about it, hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock doesn’t even make sense.  It’s like saying, ‘I hate getting up in the morning—so I do it over, and over, and over again…’

Summer months are wonderful and there is definitely a time for rest and relaxation.  However, now that the fall action plan is created, and a daily routine is being implemented, this is a great time to rid the daily routine of any “bad” habits. 

When instituting new habits into daily life, remember the following points:

1.       There is not a “one-size-fits-all solution for habit change” as discussed in Terri’s Tuesday Tip of the Week on February 7, 2017 (https://tuesdaytipoftheweek.blogspot.com/2017/02/terris-tuesday-tip-of-week-february-7th.html).  It is important to find what works for your life.   

2.       To have behavioral change, it all comes down to incorporating a new “response” when a trigger “cue” occurs in the daily routine and then a “reward”.  To learn more, read Terri’s Tuesday Tip of the Week from March 7, 2017 (https://tuesdaytipoftheweek.blogspot.com/2017/03/terris-tuesday-tip-of-week-march-7th.html). 

CHALLENGE:  Determine if there are any “bad” habits from the summer that need to be changed and create a “cue-response-reward” plan to change bad habits into good habits. 



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Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - September 4th


The key is in not spending time, but in investing it. - Stephen R. Covey

My favorite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time. - Steve Jobs

Know the true value of time; snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it. - Lord Chesterfield

Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them. - Henry Ford

Ordinary people think merely of spending time. Great people think of using it. - Author Unknown

As schedules are being reset going into the fall season, this is a great time to remember the value of time.  Recently, the below poem was stated in a YouTube video that puts into context how important it is to spend time wisely.



If you want to know the value of one year, just ask a student who failed a course.

If you want to know the value of one month, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.

If you want to know the value of one hour, ask the lovers waiting to meet.

If you want to know the value of one minute, ask the person who just missed the bus.

If you want to know the value of one second, ask the person who just escaped death in a car accident.

And if you want to know the value of one-hundredth of a second, ask the athlete who won a silver medal in the Olympics.”



― Marc Levy, Et si c'était vrai..., Vous revoir, édition complète 2 en 1



CHALLENGE:  Going into the fall season and reestablishing a schedule/routine, take time to ponder the time spent on doing various tasks and activities.  Make changes to help accomplish dreams and goals. 
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Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 28th


Where your attention goes, your time goes. - Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability

The bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot. -  Michael Altshuler

He who every morning plans the transactions of that day and follows that plan carries a thread that will guide him through the labyrinth of the most busy life. - Victor Hugo

We are 118 days away from Christmas and 124 days until New Year’s Eve!

Why is this important?  It means there are only 124 days to finish 2018 goals.  Actually, less than that because once December 1st arrives we start participating in the many festive Christmas activities and our goals are often forgotten.  So, there are about 94 days to complete 2018 goals! 

To recalibrate after a fun and exciting summer, this is a great time to start thinking about what goals/projects/tasks to complete in the fall of 2018 and create an action plan.  Here are 5 easy steps to follow:

ü  FOCUS - Take time to determine what to focus on for the rest of 2018.  Review goals and create a list of tasks/projects/activities that are the most important or will have the most impact on long terms dreams.  Or maybe something happened over the summer that has changed 2018 goals and focusing on that is most important.   

ü  PRIORITIZE – Summer is wonderful, but it also is a time when other things become priority over completing goals.  Now is a great time to determine when to work on accomplishing goals.  To prioritize, here are a few questions to think about:

Ø  When is the best time of day to schedule time to work on goals?

Ø  What daily schedule needs to be established to accomplish 2018 goals?

Ø  Does the alarm clock need to be set a little earlier to help find time to accomplish 2018 goals?

Ø  What does a productive morning and evening routine need to be to assist in completing 2018 goals?

ü  CHALLENGES – What challenges in the next three months could arise that would prohibit accomplishing 2018 goals?  Is there anything that can be done now to help prevent or prepare to handle those obstacles?

ü  CREATE ACTION PLAN – Mark Twain said:

The secret of getting ahead is getting started.

By creating an action plan, a process was established to determine what is important, tasks were created to help work towards accomplishing the tasks, potential obstacles were considered and prepared for and it is now time to finish strong!

ü  ACCOUNTABILITY – Accountability partners will be a great resource in discussing these various areas with.  

CHALLENGE: Start creating your action plan to finish 2018 strong and complete your goals. 


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