Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 16th

I'm an introspective person. I'm not an extrovert. - John Thaw

I am rarely bored alone; I am often bored in groups and crowds. - Laurie Helgoe

The introvert's anthem for not wanting to hang out is 'It's not you; it's me. - Criss Jami

You might be an introvert if you were ready to go home before you left the house.  - Criss Jami

I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel. - Audrey Hepburn

Introverts are individuals that refresh/refuel/energize by being alone and quiet.  They think before they speak, enjoy small group gatherings and one-on-one time.  For them, time alone is as restorative as sleeping and as nourishing as eating.  At work or in social situations, they like to receive agendas and meeting topics to plan and think through before attending.  They do not like unexpected surprises.      

In our busy society, it is important that we meet the needs of each other.  According to Fast Company, Introverts need:

• To be respected for their need for privacy
• Given advance notice of any changes that will affect their lives
• Reprimanded privately
• Educated privately
• Respected for their introversion and not pushed into extroversion ways

     Famous Introverts:

• President Abraham Lincoln
• Rosa Parks
• Mark Zuckerberg
• Meg Ryan 
• Julia Roberts
• Bill Gates            
• Albert Einstein
• Mahatma Gandhi
• Warren Buffett

CHALLENGE: Think of someone in your “Inner circle” that is an introvert.  How can you respect an introverts need for privacy and alone time to meet their needs this week?

Resources

http://www.forbes.com/sites/chrismyers/2016/08/14/an-introverts-guide-to-leadership/#7e407db97303

http://healthland.time.com/2012/01/27/the-great-introverts-and-extroverts-of-our-time/slide/all/

http://www.theadventurouswriter.com/blog/test-introverted-personality-traits-introversion-signs/

http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Why-Being-Introvert-Good-Thing-40242408

https://hbr.org/2014/08/networking-for-introverts?utm_medium=email&utm_source=govdelivery

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/accepting-yourself-you-introverted-female-leader-carol?trk=hp-feed-article-title-channel-add

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/an-introverts-5-tips-for-career-success_us_577eb908e4b0c590f7e8992a?yptr=yahoo

http://www.fastcompany.com/3016031/leadership-now/are-you-an-introvert-or-an-extrovert-and-what-it-means-for-your-career

http://www.theadventurouswriter.com/blog/famous-introverts-introverted-personality-types-traits/

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 9th

I'm a real extrovert, but when I'm round someone new, I'm super shy. - Serena Williams

An extrovert looks at a stack of books and sees a stack of papers, while an introvert looks at the same stack and sees a soothing source of escape. - Eric Samuel Timm

I'm an introspective person. I'm not an extrovert. - John Thaw

Last week, Terri's Tuesday Tip gave a high level overview of the difference between extrovert, introvert and ambivert. This week, let’s go a little more in-depth about extroverts.

Extroverts are individuals that refresh/refuel/energize by being around people.  They like to talk through issues with other people, brainstorm and challenge ideas.  Burst of energy for extroverts come from smiling, making eye contact or making small talk.  At work or in social situations, they can still be shy, but once they feel comfortable they will “work the room” and know every detail based on their socializing with others.  

In our busy society, it is important that we meet the needs of each other.  According to Fast Company, Extroverts need:

• To be respected for their independence
• Complimented in front of others
• Allowed to explore by talking things out with others
• Provided options
• Allowed to shine  

Famous Extroverts are: 

• Muhammad Ali
• President Bill Clinton
• President George W. Bush
• Boris Yeltsin
• Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher

CHALLENGE: Think of someone in your “Inner circle” that is an extrovert.  What can you do this week to allow an extrovert to shine?

Resources:

http://www.fastcompany.com/3016031/leadership-now/are-you-an-introvert-or-an-extrovert-and-what-it-means-for-your-career

http://flowpsychology.com/famous-extroverts/

http://www.theadventurouswriter.com/blog/extrovert-at-work-personality-traits-of-extroverted-people/

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - August 2nd

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.  - Aristotle

Accept everything about yourself–I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end–no apologies, no regrets. - Clark Moustakas

I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel. - Audrey Hepburn

Introverts are dependent on their own inside noise, extroverts are dependent of outside noise. The outputs are dependent on quality of those noise. - Amit K Ghosh

Extrovert…Introvert…Ambivert…

These words have become very popular in the last few years with the publication of Susan Cain’s book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking.  These words have been around for a while because MyersBriggs included introverts and extroverts when characterizing an individual’s personality style.  Understanding how we get our energy and understanding how others get their energy is so important.  This week, the blog post is giving a high level overview of the differences and in the coming weeks different aspects of each personality style will be discussed.  

Extroverts are individuals that get their energy from active involvement with people and different activities.  These individuals usually like to talk about a problem out loud with others to solve.  They are usually seen as outgoing or a “people-person”.  Extroverts are usually comfortable in large crowds and know lots of people.

Introverts are individuals that get their energy from being alone allowing time for introspection.  Often times, they solve problems in their minds without seeing if their solution will fit into the world.  Introverts are known as reflective or reserved.  They usually are comfortable doing things alone or with one or two people.  

There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum.  - Carl Jung

Ambiverts are individuals that have both extrovert and introvert qualities.  Ambiverts are individuals that like to have quiet time, but can also handle being around large groups of people.  They are often the best at sales because they are listeners to find a customer’s true needs and think through the problem.  Once the customer has stated their concern, the ambivert is then able to solve the problem with a product/service.  These individuals adjust their energy to the individual they are interacting with.  

By understanding your energy style, it helps you accomplish more in life to make sure you get the time you need either being with people or quiet time alone.  It is also helpful to understand other’s personality styles so that you understand how they process and why they interact with you and others the way they do. 

CHALLENGE: Do you know if you are an introvert, extrovert or ambivert?  To discover your personality style, take one of these simple and quick assessments: http://www.danpink.com/assessment/ or http://www.quietrev.com/the-introvert-test/.

There are tons of articles online and many books to read.  Below are just a few I reviewed to write the blog post. 

Resources

http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/07/fixating-on-introversion-limits-your-life.html

http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/extraversion-or-introversion.htm

http://www.quietrev.com/ambivert-results/

http://www.scienceofpeople.com/2014/12/are-you-an-ambivert/?utm_expid=40598772-27.GUo7WtuzTPijmAjYBtNktQ.1&utm_referrer=http%3A%2F%2Fr.search.yahoo.com%2F_ylt%3DA0LEVvfMsp9XkHIAHRgnnIlQ%3B_ylu%3DX3oDMTByNXM5bzY5BGNvbG8DYmYxBHBvcwMzBHZ0aWQDBHNlYwNzcg--%2FRV%3D2%2FRE%3D1470112588%2FRO%3D10%2FRU%3Dhttp%253a%252f%252fwww.scienceofpeople.com%252f2014%252f12%252fambivert-extrovert-introvert%252f%2FRK%3D0%2FRS%3DKsBB3dzGWodvDcDJugGD4y1KTHo-

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-signs-you-are-probably-ambivert.html