Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 19th



Simplify Your Life.  Learn To Say No.  – picturequotes.com

Boundaries are to protect life, not to limit pleasures. - Edwin Louis Cole
Last week, we discussed how 86,400 seconds are deposited into our “Day Account” and we have to use our time wisely because we will never get one of those seconds back.  This week, I want to talk about saying “NO”.  It is a hard thing to do, but for each of us to accomplish our dreams and goals we must learn to do it.  

Recently, I had to make a hard decision.  I have been serving on a board for a couple years and I stepped down from one position and was asked to continue to serve in another position.  The board position is not difficult because the information I provide during my report goes along with my job.  What I had to think about is that 2016 is going to be busy and I walked into work on the first Monday of January and learned that we had more to do on our trips to Washington, DC than I had thought.  There is going to be a lot of planning and work to do before I leave for my first trip in late February. 
As I was thinking about staying on in this position, I thought about the fact that the leadership position was a way for me to learn, but it was also going to be a debit to my “Day Account”.  I did not say no in this particular situation, but I did have to provide a negotiated plan to continue in the role.  To make this decision, I reviewed my priorities, goals and vision and my decision was based on the priorities in my life. 

When you have to make a decision about taking on a new task or activity, go to your dream board and goals.  Ask yourself, “Will this help me accomplish my dreams and goals?”  After contemplating that question and determining if the task/activity will help you move toward your future, you can decide how to proceed.  

Don’t be afraid to say “NO” or negotiate an option that is best for you.

A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect. - An Iola of Truth

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 12th



I do not want to waste any time.  And if you are not working on important things, you are wasting time. – Dean Kamen

A real woman avoids drama, she knows her time is precious and she’s not wasting it on unimportant things. quotediary.com

86,400…

Did you have fun last week imagining and dreaming about your future?  How is your dream board/wall coming?  Over the weekend, I rearranged my wall into different categories, discovered new dreams for myself and added more pictures and sticky notes to help me daily visualize my dreams and goals.  I cannot wait to see my dreams come true in 2016!

You may wonder why I put the number 86,400 at the beginning of this blog post.  As I was working on my dream wall, I was looking at everything I am dreaming and imaging.  There are some tasks I can do to make these dreams come true, some things I can do to help myself improve overall and then there are some things that I have to wait patiently to see them come to fruition.  
Every day, 86,400 seconds are deposited into our “Day Account”.  It is important that we use them wisely because we will never get one of these seconds back.  As you are going through your day trying to determine what things you should work on, remember each thing you choose to do will be a debit to your account.  When you go to do a task, ask yourself, “is this debit to my “Day Account” worth it?  Sometimes the answer will be yes and sometimes it will be no.  You must choose how you will proceed.

This week, I challenge you to make wise debits to your “Day Account”!

 Wisdom is knowing when you are being patient, and when you are wasting time by waiting. - Jarod Kintz, This Book is Not FOR SALE

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - January 5, 2016



It starts with a dream.  Add faith, and it becomes a belief.  Add action, and it becomes a part of life.  Add Perseverance, and it becomes a goal in sight.  Add patience and time, and it ends with a dream come true. – Doe Zantamata

We made it to 2016!!!  Goals are written.  Now what???

Recently, I was listening to a motivational speaker discuss vision boards and she read the following story:
Glenna's Goal Book from Chicken Soup for the Soul

In 1977 I was a single mother with three young daughters, a house payment, a car payment and a need to rekindle some dreams.

One evening I attended a seminar and heard a man speak on the I x V = R Principle (Imagination mixed with Vividness becomes Reality.)  The speaker pointed out that the mind thinks in pictures, not in words.  And as we vividly picture in our mind what we desire, it will become a reality.

This concept struck a chord of creativity in my heart.  I know that Biblical taught that the Lord give us "the desires of our heart"(Psalms 37:4) and that "as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he" (Psalms 23:7).  I was determined to take my written prayer list and turn it into pictures.  I began cutting up old magazines and gathering pictures that depicted the "desires of my heart."  I arranged them in an expensive photo album and waited expectantly.

I was very specific with my pictures.  They included:
1.  A good-looking man
2.  A woman in a wedding gown and a man in a tuxedo
3.  Bouquets of flowers (I'm a romantic)
4.  Beautiful diamond jewelry (I rationalized that God loved David and Solomon and they were two of the richest men who ever lived)
5.  an island in the sparkling blue Caribbean
6.  A lovely home
7.  New furniture
8.  A woman who had recently become vice-president of a large corporation. (I was working for a company that had no female officers.  I wanted to be the first woman vice-president in that company.)

About eight weeks later, I was driving down a California freeway, minding my own business at 10:30 in the morning.  Suddenly a gorgeous red-and-white Cadillac passed me.  I looked at the car because it was a beautiful car.  And the driver looked at me and smiled, and I smiled back because I always smile.  Now I was in deep trouble.  Have you ever done that?  I tried to pretend that I hadn't looked.  "Who me?  I didn't look at you!"  He followed me for the next 15 miles.  Scared me to death!  I drove a few miles, he drove a few miles.  I parked, he parked... and eventually I married him!

On the first day after our first date, Jim sent me a dozen roses.  Then I found out that he had a hobby.  His hobby was collecting diamonds.  Big ones!  And he was looking for somebody to decorate.  I volunteered!  We dated for about two years and every Monday morning I received a long-stemmed red rose and a love note from him.

About three months before we were getting married, Jim said to me, "I have found the perfect place to go on our honeymoon.  We will go to St. John's Island down in the Caribbean."  I laughingly said, "I never would have thought of that!"

I did not confess the truth about my picture book until Jim and I had been married for almost a year.  It was then at we were moving into our gorgeous new home and furnishing it with the elegant furniture that I had pictured.  (Jim turned out to be the West Coast wholesale distributor for one of the finest eastern furniture manufacturers.)

By the way, the wedding was in Laguna Beach, California, and included the gown and tuxedo as realities.  Eight months after I created my dream book, I became the Vice-President of Human Resources in the company where I worked.

In some sense this sounds like a fairy tale, but it is absolutely true.  Jim and I have made many "picture books" since we have been married.  God has filled our lives with the demonstration of theses powerful principles of faith at work.

Decide what it is that you want in every area of your life.  Imagine it vividly.  Then act on your desires by actually constructing your personal goal book.  Convert your ideas into concrete realities through this simple exercise.  There are no impossible dreams.  And, remember, God has promised to give His children the desires of their heart.
                                                                                                                                                              Glenns Salsbury

A couple months ago before I ever heard anyone discuss vision boards, I had started hanging pictures on my dining room (actually my fitness area) wall.  When I would walk into the kitchen, I would review it and imagine what it would be like when those dreams came true in my life.  After reading Glenns story, I started adding more pictures, etc. and get excited every time I walk past. 

Take the time to review your goals, create a vision board, dream, be creative and imagine the 
unthinkable for your life in 2016!


I believe that visualization is one of the most powerful means of achieving personal goals. - Harvey Mackay

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