Tuesday, October 30, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 30th


Trifles make perfection, and perfection is no trifle. - Michelangelo

Genius is eternal patience. - Michelangelo

There is no greater harm than that of time wasted. - Michelangelo

Lord, grant that I may always desire more than I accomplish. - Michelangelo

Please don't trouble yourself. God didn't make us to abandon us. -  Michelangelo

Michelangelo did not set out to become one of the most famous artists of the Italian Renaissance and forever change European painting, but he did!

As a young boy, Michelangelo was an apprentice to a painter before studying in the sculpture gardens of the Medici family.  In those gardens, he found his passion for sculpting and later in life created masterpieces including David, which today is located at the Galleria dell’Accademia in Florence, Italy, and Pieta located at the Vatican. 

In his early thirties, Pope Julius II asked Michelangelo to switch from sculpting to painting the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel.  At first, he was going to decline the opportunity because he did not think the project would turn out to be significant.  However, he decided to accept the opportunity and as he started painting his imagination began to come up with creative ideas.  The original plan for the Sistine Chapel ceiling was 12 apostles, but the painting morphed into more than 300 figures.  While painting, an observer asked Michelangelo why he focused so much on the corners of the painting because no one would see them.  Michelangelo’s response was, “God will”. 

There is so much to learn from the story of Michelangelo as we are 2 months from the end of the 2018. 

1.       Even if a project/assignment/goal is not something that you enjoy, put your full effort into finishing it this year because God is watching.

2.       The small details matter. 

3.       There may be a dream or goal that does not make sense right now and has not gone anywhere this year.  However, continue pushing through and finish strong because you could change the world.

CHALLENGE: Finish 2018 strong!



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Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 23rd


Life is an adventure in forgiveness. - Norman Cousins

Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much. ― Oscar Wilde

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. ― Mahatma Gandhi, All Men are Brothers: Autobiographical Reflections

When conflict arises, there are often hurt feelings between the individuals that were involved in the conflict.  This provides a great opportunity for forgiveness.   On Facebook, A Modern Day Ruth recently posted:

You don’t have to rebuild a relationship with everyone you’ve forgiven.  Just because you’re at peace doesn’t mean they’re not still toxic.

Forgiveness is not for the other person, but for YOU!  By forgiving, it provides you the opportunity to move on with life and accomplish your dreams.  As I was thinking about this post, I was reminded of Nelson Mandela.  According to International Business Times, Mandela spent 27 years in prison for trying to use violence to end white-minority rule.  After his release, he spent the remaining years of his life trying to bring unity to a divided country.  Four things that he did to build unity were:

1.       Mandela invited one his jailers to dinner on the 20th anniversary of his release from prison.

2.       Mandela invited a prison guard to his inauguration as South Africa’s president.

3.       Mandela lunched with the state prosecutor who tried to have him killed.

4.       Mandela wore the hated green Springbok jersey when he presented the South African Captain the World Cup Trophy in 1995. 

No matter one’s opinion of Mandela, he showed forgiveness after being jailed for 27 years.  He showed his country that it was time to put away hostility and unite as a country.



CHALLENGE: As the holidays approach, is there anyone that you need to forgive to have peace in your family and the opportunity to finish 2018 passionately and begin 2019 strong? 



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Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 16th


Conflict and resolution are two sides of the same coin. ― Haresh Sippy

Making noise doesn't validate your point. ― Thabiso Monkoe, The Azanian

Conflict will happen and how we handle it is the most important thing.  As I have been researching conflict resolution, I have been thinking about various times I have been in conflict.  We are all going to handle conflict differently; however, there are a few things I have learned that I think can be helpful to everyone.

1.       There are two sides to every story and it is important to take time to listen to the other side.  Alaric Hutchinson said:



Bravery is listening even when you don't want to hear it.



In one relationship in my life, I know that my interpretation of what the person says is often different than what the person means.  To help with misinterpretation of statements, I started saying, “For clarification”.  When I say this, it tells the individual I want to understand what was said and helps defuse any defensive feelings. 



2.       After gaining clarification, it is important to remain mindful of the situation.  According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, mindfulness is “the practice of maintaining a nonjudgmental state of heightened or complete awareness of one's thoughts, emotions, or experiences on a moment-to-moment basis.” 



Mindfulness may help you gain insight into your role in conflicts with others, it won’t single-highhandedly help you resolve them.― Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection



3.       Ending conflict is important and it is important to find a resolution for everyone.    



Sometimes, God doesn’t send you into a battle to win it; he sends you to end it. ― Shannon L. Alder



I don’t think anyone ever gets completely used to conflict. If it’s not a little uncomfortable, then it’s not real. The key is to keep doing it anyway. ― Patrick Lencioni, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable

CHALLENGE: What have you learned recently from a conflict that you dealt with?



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Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 9th


All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think? - Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies

Knowing when to fight is just as important as knowing how. - Terry Goodkind, Faith of the Fallen

Conflict is drama, and how people deal with conflict shows you the kind of people they are. - Stephen Moyer

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, conflict is:

a : competitive or opposing action of incompatibles : antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons) a conflict of principles

b : mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands His conscience was in conflict with his duty.

Throughout life, we deal with conflict.  It can be a simple issue such as a difference of opinion on what color pillows to put on a couch or much more in-depth issues.  Conflict no matter the issue can be a hindrance in accomplishing dreams and goals.  In Notorious RBG : the life and times of Ruth Bader Ginsburg and in article by about Justice Ginsburg, she states conflict is counterproductive.  She quoted Eleanor Roosevelt: “Anger, resentment, envy. These are emotions that just sap your energy. They’re not productive and don’t get you anyplace, so get over it.”

Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means. - Ronald Reagan

CHALLENGE: What conflict is there in your life?  How are you going to handle it?



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Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Terri's Tuesday Tip of the Week - October 2nd


Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude. ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. - Marcus Aurelius



Over the last couple of weeks, I have been discussing how important it is to train our minds to think positively and encouragingly about oneself.  D. Martyn Lloyd Jones states that we need to stop letting our minds tell us what to think and instead tell our minds what to think:

“Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself? Take those thoughts that come to you the moment you wake up in the morning. You have not originated them but they are talking to you, they bring back the problems of yesterday, etc. Somebody is talking. Who is talking to you? Your self is talking to you. Now this man’s treatment [in Psalm 42] was this: instead of allowing this self to talk to him, he starts talking to himself. “Why art thou cast down, O my soul?” he asks. His soul had been depressing him, crushing him. So he stands up and says, “Self, listen for moment, I will speak to you.”

As I was dealing with past experiences recently, I had to talk to myself and tell myself I was not what I had been told many years ago.  I had to replace what I was told with strong, positive and confident statements.

CHALLENGE:  Mindsets are one of the most important things that help people accomplish their dreams.  How is your mindset today?



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